LESSONS LEARNED WITH PAST LOVERS APPLY NOW: Tantra School, Part 3, Web Radio, Article

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Past Loves 3

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LESSONS LEARNED WITH PAST LOVERS APPLY NOW by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra www.schooloftantra.com

 

LOOK AT EACH OF YOUR LOVERS’ LOVES: Review What they Learned

 

Invite a lover to review lovers from the past.  Alternately, take a non-lover of yours through the cue sequence below. Say the review will help her or him better current relationships. Look at the events, sexual and emotional sharing in each of her or his prior pairings. Review the developmental tasks s/he worked on in the relationships and note what s/he and they learned from being together. Then she sees how s/he can apply what s/he learned to you or, if you are facilitating a person who’s not your lover, how s/he can apply what s/he learned to her or his current loves.

 

Lie on your back. Relax. Close your eyes.

 

Feel your genitals–your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.

 

Reconsider your lovers–the significant ones-from days gone. Tell me their names, I’ll write them. 
Lover 1 [Write it]
Lover 2
Lover 3
Lover 4
Lover 5
Etc.

 

For each lover listed,
Tell me the YEARS you were involved and how old you were,  [Write them next to the names indicated]

 

Say where you were when you related to this lover the key EVENTS in your relationship [Take notes next to the names indicated].

 

Tell me your EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL SHARING with each.

 

Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with each.

 

Summarize the events, sexual and emotional sharing and the developmental tasks we’ve experienced together. 

 

Imagine [Lover 1: Say name] is before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her .

 

Express to him or her any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say.

 

Tell him or her your RESENTMENTS.

 

As you imagine him or her before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from him or her .

 

Say, to him or her, your APPRECIATIONS 

 

Tell him or her what you REGRET. Say what you FORGIVE him or her for.

 

What subselves, inner voices or attitudes did you develop as a result of this relationship?

 

Tell [Lover 1: Say his or her name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together. 

 

FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better. 

 

Bid him or her FAREWELL. 

 

How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [Lover 1: Say his or her name]

 

How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me?   [or with your current lovers]
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LOVER 2
Imagine [Lover 2: Say his or her name] is before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.  

 

Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say fully

 

Tell him or her your RESENTMENTS 

 

As you imagine she or he before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from him or her.

 

Say, to him or her, your APPRECIATIONS 

 

Tell him or her what you REGRET. Tell him or her what you FORGIVE him or her for.

 

What subselves, inner voices or attitudes did you develop as a result of this relationship?

 

Tell [Lover 2: Say his or her name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being him or her.

 

FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better. 

 

Bid him or her FAREWELL. 

 

How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [Lover 2: Say his or her name]?

 

How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me/a lover [select appropriate object]?

 

LOVERS 3 – N : CONTINUE QUESTIONS ABOVE FOR LOVERS 1 & 2 FOR EACH OF ADDITIONAL MAJOR LOVE.

 

Let us know on this site or schooloftanta@aol.com how this exercise affected you and your current relationship.

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