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REVIEW WHAT SHE LEARNED WITH LOVERS by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.
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Say you’d like to guide her through the cues for her to review her lovelife, what she learned from it, and how what she learned can apply to your relationship with her.

 

 

 

 

[Giver reads bold print to female receiver]
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Say: Lie on your back. Relax. Put my left hand on your heart, my right on your second chakra (genitals). Rest your hands atop mine. Close your eyes. Ok, let’s release our hands; lower them.

Feel your genitals–your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.

Reconsider your lovers from days gone. Say their names, I write them. [For each lover on her list so she focuses on each, say:]
Lover 1
Lover 2
Lover 3
Lover 4
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LOVER 1
Relate the YEARS you were involved with [Lover 1’s name].

How old were you then?[Write years your age next to the name indicated]

Say the main EVENTS in this relationship. [Take notes next to the name she indicated]

Describe your EMOTIONS with [Lover 1’s name]

Tell me how you and [Lover 1’s name] related SEXUALLY.

Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with[Lover 1].

Imagine [name] stands before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.

Express to [name] any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say.

Tell [name] your RESENTMENTS.

As you imagine [name] before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS–what you wanted and needed from him or her .

Say, to [Lover 1], your APPRECIATIONS.

Say what you REGRET. Tell[name] what you FORGIVE him or her for …

Tell [ name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together.

FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.

Bid him or her FAREWELL.

How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with[name]?

How can you apply what you could do better with [name] to your relationship with me?
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LOVER 2
Imagine [Lover 2: Say his or her name] sits before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.

Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say fully.

Tell him or her your RESENTMENTS.

As you imagine she or he before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS, what you wanted from him or her.

Say, to him or her, your APPRECIATIONS.

Tell him or her what you REGRET.

Say what you FORGIVE him or her for.

Tell [Lover 2] WHAT YOU LEARNED when you enacted him or her.

FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.

Bid him or her FAREWELL.

How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER when you related to [Lover 2: Say his or her name]?

How can you apply what you would have improved with that lover to how you relate with me?
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For each lover on her list, repeat the questions above.

Find out the years she involved herself with each lover. Note her age while she and each lover related.

Tell her to review each relationship’s key events. Ask her what emotions and sexual behaviors she and each lover shared.

Ask her what developmental tasks she completed in each relationship.

Encourage her to express longings, withheld feelings, resentments, demands, appreciations and regrets for each lover.

Let her say what she learned from each. Ask her to express forgiveness to lovers she resented. Invite her to say, “Goodbye” and cut emotional cords with each to the degree she desires. Tell her to say what she’d improve were she to redo the relationship, now that she thought more about it.

Ask her how she can apply what she’d do better in each past relationship to how she relates to you now.

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