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What You Do In Tantra School

»Posted by on Jan 3, 2013 in All-Chakra Tantra, Love, Radio, Relationships, Spirituality, Tantra | 0 comments

1/3/13 WHAT YOU DO IN TANTRA SCHOOL, Part 1 Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio All-Chakra Tantra Web Radio Coaching, Counseling, Teaching:Your Right-livelihood Click arrow on embed to hear how Janet experienced Tantra School, and how you can teach people to love more. As she relates her experiences, Dr. Lessin offers home experiences for you as you listen, and expansions of the lessons on www.schooloftantra.com *** Tantra Teacher Training For LEVEL I CERTIFICATION OF COMPLETION BY CORRESPONDENCE, you take ninety hours or so (less is ok as long as you have satisfactory completions to e-mail (within four months) your answers to the questions in this book. Dr. Lessin responds by e-mail and may ask you to correct or expand some of your answers. The School then awards you a diploma as a School of Tantra Level 1 Certified Tantra Dakini, Daka, Lover or Practitioner (you choose the title).   When you complete Level 1, you can take Level 2 training. When you finish Level 2, you may proceed to Level 3. Each level requires about 90 hours homestudy.Level I Courses   Overview All-Chakra Tantra Peruse Primal Therapy Mend Mom’s Mistakes When You Mate Delete Dad’s Defects in Your Lovelife Listen Actively, Roleplay, Communicate Compassion Manage Imagos: Heal Hurts Survey Sexual Stories Dialogue Inner Voices, Witness & Center Satisfy Self, Suppress Squirt, Sustain Sex Worship Women Fathom Physical Form Learn Chakra Yoga Basics Level II Courses Practice Pujas–Personal, Pair and Poly Ponder Paths Embrace Blessings Gratify Guys Gestalt Authentic Contact Delve Dreams Heed Holotropic Breathing to Refine Relationships Rate Relations Fathom Finitude & Embrace Eternity to Ripen Relations & Sacralize Sex Learn From Lives Lapsed Cultivate Uplifting Communication Intermediate Chakra Yoga Level III Courses Lead Tantra Rituals Hone Hypnotherapy For Sacred Loving Train in Tantra Theosophy & Temple Transformation Technology Release Discarnates & Demonics Apply Existential Analysis Learn Living Love Guide Shamanic Journeywork Deprogram Abduction, Cult Inculcation and Black Project Imprints Facilitate Opposite Sex Student through All-Chakra Tantra Text Facilitate Same Sex Student through All-Chakra Tantra Text Facilitate Pairs through All-Chakra Tantra Text Practice Pranayama   Homework Submission   Respond in e-mail to each query or direction preceded by an asterisk *. Paste each numbered question and instruction (example: CTD 103:12) ) you respond to in an e-mail to Dr. Lessin at schooloftantra@aol.com. Indicate the email address to which you want Dr. Lessin to return his e-comments on your homework Send a few pages every week or so. Dr. Lessin indicates (in his e-mail reactions to what you send) which of your responses to consider further, correct and/or resubmit.   READ COURSE DESCRIPTIONS   Level 1 CTD 101 OVERVIEW ALL-CHAKRA TANTRA In All-Chakra Tantra, you center yourself and orchestrate your chakras–inner power plants that generate security, sexuality, power, love, communication, vision, and feelings of oneness with everything and everyone. You learn a chant and a ritual that teaches you how to waken each chakra.   CTD 102 PERUSE PRIMAL THERAPY Parents either meet need or fail to meet your needs for love as a child in a way you directly sense. If they truely love you, they hold you and encourage you to develop in your own direction at your own pace. Explore symbolic resonances of any love you lacked. Learn, for yourself and clients, how imprints rule your lives now, dictate the ecology of inner voices, dominate your bodies, project into dreams and direct spiritual aspirations. Probe imprints from conception, gestation, labor, delivery, childhood. Learn how to modify imprints to suit life today.   CTD 103 MEND MOM’S MISTAKES WHEN YOU MATE One aspect of our personalities, the Inner Brat, developed from our emotional pain and from adopting our parents’ worst traits. If Mom or the females that had charge of us when we were wee did not completely love and accept themselves and others, we copied this. She couldn’t model self-love and overflowing love to others if her parents, in turn, didn’t model it. When we’re unloving and self-defeating, we express negative love, some of which we adopted from her. In this class we, then those we facilitate learn to stop getting even with Mom, to lovingly divorce her, rise above her negative example, realize she’ll never meet our childish demand to love us with nothing asked in return. First we prosecute Mom: we emote anger for her example and for wrongs she did us. Then we put yourself in her place and get how she was molded into giving us negative attitudes by her parents’ attitudes. The class ends when we and our partners experience deep compassion, forgiveness and love toward our mothers. Then, in homework, you...

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BLISS OF ALL-CHAKRA LOVEMAKING: Dr. Sasha & Janet Lessin Share on Internet Radio

»Posted by on Jan 1, 2013 in Articles, Guest Appearances, Radio, Relationships, Tantra | 1 comment

Janet & Dr.Sasha Lessin Share BLISS OF ALL-CHAKRA LOVEMAKING on Patti Taylor’s Internet Radio. The Lessins are the founders of the School of Tantra in Maui, Hawaii and in selected venues all over. They teach people to make love with their whole being, and to unblock any and all stuck places that get in the way of intimacy, personal power and full orgasmic presence. How to Really Love A Woman is available in hardcover, softcover and kindle on amazon.com. Click HERE to purchase. Learn what the chakras mean, and how to use them to create a beautiful lovemaking ceremony. Experience for yourself a dynamic process that Sasha and Janet use to generate connection using the seven chakras to send shivers of delight up your spine! You can feel the energy while listening, and better yet, also reproduce this in your own home with the handout the Lessins give.  Click HERE to listen to the radio show.   Then, tune in as Sasha gives Janet a reenactment of a full ejaculatory orgasm. Sasha very specifically goes stroke by stroke over exactly how he evokes every little nuance and pleasure from Janet’s clit and “cave”, as well as creating her “gushing” over the edge. You will get lots of specific ideas. Janet’s commentaries on the emotional impact of Sasha’s touches, and her vulnerability, are priceless, as are both of their spoken words to one another. Learn the kind of work the Lessins do to help others with issues such as sexual healing and emotional blocks to sex in their private counseling. This show models how easily true expanded love can be made! Plus, find out how they connect their work to planetary healing.   Schedule your own private in person, phone or Skype session now: $150 per hour  For the hearing impaired, here’s the script: Dr. Patti Taylor: Welcome to the Expanded Lovemaking show. I’m your host, Dr. Patti Taylor of Expanded Lovemaking dot com, and I teach you how to give and receive way more pleasure than you ever dreamed possible. Today on the show, we are talking about sharing the bliss of all chakra lovemaking with a partner. Usually, we have guests on talking about what they do. Today, we’re so lucky to have two experts on the show experiencing intimate yet powerful lovemaking and talking to us as they go through it themselves. I’ll be inviting you to join in energetically and to take back juicy knowledge and energy into your own lovemaking enjoyment. Our guests are Dr. Sasha Lessin, Dean of the School of Tantra, with his wife, Janet Lessin, Professor of Tantric Studies at the School of Tantra. So, welcome, Sasha and Janet Lessin. Janet Lessin: Aloha! Thank you for having us here. Sasha Lessin: Aloha. Dr. Patti Taylor: Hi, so, Dr. Sasha Lessin is a practicing psychotherapist and relationship counselor for over thirty years who brings many special skills to his counseling, including hypnotherapy, holotropic breathing, healing and past-life regressions, spirit releasement, and voice dialogue. Janet Lessin is an accomplished writer and teacher of Tantra. Sasha and Janet teach their diverse healing and spiritual paths together through their School of Tantra. They’re the authors of All Chakra Tantra and How to Really Love a Woman, amongst many other incredible books and things that they’ve created. They live in Maui, Hawaii, where they offer workshops, ceremonies, singles events, couples events, residential retreats, Tantra training of all sorts, and they also do counseling by phone. I think our listeners will love this show because, in a real life experience, you can feel the energy instead of just hearing about it. And I’ve always loved being able to model myself after experts. So today, then, we will find out all about All Chakra Tantra and have some demonstrations of the Lessins’ most requested teachings. Hopefully some of them, anyway. Including creating an intimate female ejaculatory lovemaking session. So let’s get started! Let’s find out a little bit about All Chakra Tantra, and I think we need to start out finding out what is a chakra. So hello, and can you tell us a little about All Chakra Tantra?   Sasha Lessin: Oh, I’d love to, and I’ll be posting this stuff on your site, Patti, so people can get it. Tantra, one of its meanings is “weaving.” It means weaving all levels of your awareness, and these levels we call “chakras.” These are things within you and between you and those you love. Think of the chakras with your body parts, the bottom of your torso, genitals is the next one, belly, heart, throat, brain, then the neocortex. And these are the parts...

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Chakra 5: VITALIZE YOUR VOICE Internet Radio & Articles on Expression

»Posted by on Nov 13, 2012 in Love, Relationships, Tantra | 0 comments

Chakra 5: VITALIZE YOUR VOICE  Internet Radio & Articles on Expression Click the arrow in the embed above and hear our show. Chakra 5: VITALIZE YOUR VOICE . Article: Chakra 5: Vitalize Your Voice : SPEAK OR STAY SILENT, BUT SING by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra . 5th Chakra: throat, expression.  Hear each of your inner expressive voices as well as any voices that suppress expression. . For situations you face, let these voices of expression and of privacy speak to you internally. Ask them, . What do you want? . What needs drive what you want? . How do you aid me?  . What do you, in this situation, offer lovers and humanity? . Then you, the whole person, can choose what, when and how to show (or conceal) your inner voices to other people. . Honor your beloveds’ many voices too. . Speak authentically, kindly & helpfully. . Sing. . Sanctify oral sex. . *** . Activate Your Throat Chakra . Hands at throat, three times, chant ham.  With each ham you chant, imagine the bud of a blue rose appears in your throat.  And as you say ham, let the blue rose open and expand your options of talk or silence. . Hear, in your mind’s ear, your throat singing your song, a song that reminds you of who you are. . Cradle a partner’s throat in your hands. . Chant ham three times to each other.  Or chant it to the mirror. . Take turns; SING your favorite songs–songs that expresses who you are. . TICKLE each other till you giggle; this, too, opens your throat chakra. . Finish this sentence with each other as many times as you can: “YOU DON’T KNOW I ….”  . Weigh the risk of your partner’s probable reaction in the following completions against the possibility of more intimacy.  You may want a neutral witness to help you through any upset you fear the candor might trigger. . Notice WHAT YOU DREAD DIVULGING; magnify this fear and finish: “I have secrets so bad that if you knew you’d ….”  . “It’s hardest to tell you …. [Complete] . “I risk our relation by revealing ….”  [Complete] , ENACT YOUR NARRATOR . Personify your communicative chakra, the subself that shares or suppresses what you say.  . Relate your concerns about what your person reveals.  .   What do you need to feel safe to express authentically?  . If you dictated the truth to the world, how would it change?  . EXPRESS YOURSELF AUTHENTIC TO THE DEGREE YOU CHOOSE Take turns answering these questions to someone you’d like to know better and whom you’d like to know you better. Before I die, I intend to … The biggest mistake I ever made was … The biggest challenges in my life now are … I’d be willing to die for … My two most treasured memories of love are … The things that make those I live with a pleasure to live with are … The best and worst things about my sex life are … The features I like most and the ones I like least about my body are … One sexual fantasy I’d like fulfilled is … What I like least about you is … What I like least about you is (or was) also my trait in this way… What I like least about myself is … What I like most about you is … What I like most about myself is … If I could change you one way, I’d … I’d modify myself by …. You don’t know I …   All the above’s excerpt from ALL-CHAKRA TANTRA, available at http://www.schooloftantra.net/Store/Books/AllChakraTantra.htm *** Prior radio  : Chakra 4 (Love) THE HEART CHAKRA Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk...

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Chakra 4: GIVE,GET, BE LOVE Internet Radio & Articles by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

»Posted by on Nov 3, 2012 in Love, Polyamory, Relationships, Tantra | 1 comment

Chakra 4: GIVE,GET, BE LOVE Internet Radio & Articles . Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio   Click the arrow in the embed above and hear our show.  Chakra 4, Give,Get, Be Love . . HEED YOUR HEART: Exercises with Tantric Partner by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra . Do these exercises and you and your partner will open up your heart chakras and lovingly integrate your reactions to all your own inner voices, to each other and to the world. . Face each other in the Open Heart Pose Below: . Left legs forward, stretch your arms back, palms toward one another.  Open your chests to each other. .   Close your eyes.  Pretend you each STAND BEFORE SOMEONE you love–other than each other.  Beam love to the person you imagine before you. .   Finish the sentence in italics below aloud as you imagine a person you love faces you. You and s/he each speak at the same time to the persons you imagine (ignore for now what your partner vocalizes): “Here’s what I love about you ….”  (Remember, this is the person you imagine, not your actual partner; you’ll get to your partner in a bit). .   Imagine the person you visualize sends love to you; receive it. . Eyes still closed, broadcast love from your heart to your family, community and humanity.   . Open your eyes.  Beam love to each other.   . Access what you love about each other.  Then sit together.   . Say whom you saw and felt love toward when you had your eyes closed.  Share what you thought and felt when you sent love to her or him. .   Tell each other what you thought and felt when you sent love to your family.   . What did you think and feel when you sent love to the world? .   Complete, to each other: “WHAT I LOVE ABOUT YOU IS ….”.   EMBODY AFFECTION . Become your Love Chakra. Say what you want.  Say why you want that. .   How would your person live if you, Romantic subself, were the sole voice she or he heeded. . How do you balance your Giver and Taker subselves. . Relate what you’d do if you dictated love on Earth. .   *** . APPRECIATE  PLEASER & TAKER TOO: Center your Heart Center When You Both Give & Get Love .   Read the cues in bold below aloud to her; give her a few minutes to respond to each. .   Sit on this cushion–the place for your CENTER, where you  hear your inner selves. .   Tell me about your Pleaser, your nice part, that makes other people happy. .   What’s your Pleaser voice like? . What does it do for you. . Shift to a new position, a seat for PLEASER. . Hi.  Enact Pleaser.  Say what you do for    [partner’s name]. . When did your life as distinct Pleaser subself start? . What’s your history,Pleaser? . How do you protectherfrom  hurt, fear and insecurity. . What have you contributed to her or him? . Say what you’d like her to acknowledge and appreciate. . Thanks.  Let her return to Center position. . Hi, Center.  Tell me about your TAKER, the part Critic calls “Selfish”, the subself that wants you to have what you want. . Move to a seat for that self.  Be Taker.  Say, Taker, what you do for her or him. .   Say the main times you emerged, times you helped her or him. .   What would you like her or him to appreciate you for? . Relate when, nowadays, Taker, you’d like her or him to assert needs better.   . How, from your perspective, does she or he do in meeting her or his sexual, assertive and creative needs? .   Thanks, I liked talking.  Now let [partner’s name] return to CENTER. . Now move again; stand behind me, in the WITNESS position.  I review what your Pleaser and Taker said. ###[Summarize what you heard] .   Stand.  Embrace impartially.  As Witness, you don’t decide anything.  You just sense each voice’s energy as I tell about them. . [Say what you noticed about her Pleaser and Taker] Nod, “Yes,” when you feel them. . Return to the CENTER cushion. Experience the middle.  Feel and appreciate Pleaser and Taker. . Say what you learned. . CONSTELLATE  INNER LOVER . “Embody your Ideal Lover.  As Ideal  Lover, describe your existence–what you feel, think and do for your woman or man, how you regard her or him, what you do to help her...

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THE POLY LOVE-IN: SHARE SACRED SEXUALITY & Poly Vetting Checklist by Janet Kira Lessin

»Posted by on Oct 31, 2012 in Love, Polyamory, Relationships, Spirituality, Tantra | 1 comment

THE POLY LOVE-IN: SHARE SACRED SEXUALITYby Janet Kira Lessin When you and new lovers get together to make love for the first time, you can better honor your fertility and health concerns once you’ve heard each other’s sexual health information, asked questions and perhaps performed a home-HIV test. .   Each of you tells her or his sexual history.  Share your test results for sexually transmitted and other contagious diseases.  Say who and how you’ve touched sexually since your last HIV tests.  Say what methods you used (or didn’t) for disease protection.  State your fertility status. .   Notice your partners’ body language and eye movements as they share their sexual history.  Body and eye movement can indicate truth (people lie most about sex).  Ask questions until you get enough information to make intelligent decisions. .   WEIGH WHAT WANT & DON’T WANT. . Focus, breathe, find your center.  Notice signals your body sends you.  Is your belly tense, head aching, breathing rapid?  Then gather your thoughts and take turns saying what you seek, prefer and what you do not want sexually with each person at the love-in.  Consider all health, emotional and social factors and remember, you can say “No” anytime. .   CENTER YOURSELF BETWEEN INNER GIVER & TAKER .   You may hide your desires if your Giver– an inner voice that says to please others first—dominates you.  Your Giver knows how to make other people comfortable.  Trouble is, sometimes giving becomes more than an option, your Giver becomes your main voice, the only one you hear inside.  Your Giver takes you over and can ignore your own needs. .   If your Giver dominates you, you do what other people want you to do so they’ll like you.  You think, “I’m nice and just naturally try to make them happy first.”  This may please them and you for a while. .   But when you automatically please others first, you suppress your ability to choose how you want to interact sexually with your lovers at the love-in.  The Giver, always gratifying others, keeps your Taker–the part of you that wants to meet your own needs—offstage. .   Offstage in your unconscious, your Taker gathers strength and bitterness and can explode without consideration of your inner ecology or relations with your polymates. .   What works for me is inclusive, pair-bonded loving (Mono-poly), with Sasha and I each having a veto on one another’s sexual involvement.   Sasha never exercises his veto, but I often do.  In inclusive loving, all sexualloving takes place in each others’ presence.  Relating to other couples has to be right for both of us, no small requirement, since we’re bi, eccentric and intense and we need all-round approbation with our lovers. .   Show your protective voices that you can, from your discerning center, experiment with new behaviors and still feel secure.  From your Center, face your sexual self, overcome your family and cultural programming, burn karma, heal trauma and drop inhibitions.  If your love group encourages emotional release and reprogramming, emotions you experience in the love-in give you a chance to heal and learn. .   STATE DESIRES & LIMITATIONS .   Tell each person how you want to share sex with her or him.  You don’t have to justify a request; just state it.  Hear but don’t judge other’s requests. .   When you request, say, double penetration, your love-in lovers may or may not give you that.  If they ask you to do something you need not comply.  Offer each other alternative intimacies.  Match your sexual interactions with your comfort level.  Perhaps, refrain from coitus at first.  A man may, in some instances, ejaculate only with his mate but share oral sex with others in the group. .   Many woman, like me, were forced, raped, controlled, manipulated or dominated by male caretakers or lovers.  We may have attitudes that limit our sexuality. .   If you have primary partners present at the love-in, after each person expresses sexual wants and limits, tell your partners how you feel about their sexual desires for others and ask them to say how they feel about your sexual requests.  Reach consensus with your partners before engaging in sex with others. .   Always honor and respect the wants, desires and needs of your partners to limit how you relate to the others at the love-in.  Give your primary partners they want and thereby create space for their healing, space where they can feel safe.  Then they can open up later on in the current encounter or future episodes rather than retreat and shut down from this experience...

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LISTEN WITH LOVE & SHOW OTHERS: Internet Radio and article

»Posted by on Oct 21, 2012 in Love, Relationships | 0 comments

LISTEN WITH LOVE & SHOW OTHERS: Internet Radio and article by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Counseling . Click here and hear intenet radio Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio . Read on and experience personal and relationship improvement or at least acceptance. http://aquarianradio.com/counseling-lessins/ . Understand how genuine concern, authentic communication and active listening help you, your lovers, friends and clients grow.  Listen actively–mirror, validate and empathize with one another. Give genuine regard: paraphrase, summarize, show sympathy. Roleplay–share advanced feedback; show partners, friends and clients how they come across. . Episode 1, (Oct 25, 2012) SUPPLEMENT: DO-IT-YOURSELF & MAKE IT YOURS FOREVER . Listen to your lovers, friends and clients so they feel felt, so they know you hear, understand and feel them.  Hold them.  Find out what hurt them and how you can help heal those hurts.  Teach them to hear, paraphrase and empathize with you and how to commit to improve.  Practice kind yet authentic confrontation.  Grow from feedback. . LISTEN ACTIVELY . Encourage your lovers, friends, clients and seekers.  Show real concern.  Say what you think and feel.  Mirror and validate each other, feel together; then agree to observable helpful acts. . Mirror . When a lover, friends or client shares, complete, in your own words“You say…”. . Just paraphrase; don’t respond to she or he says. . If s/he questions you, don’t answer.  Instead, say “You ask …?”  and repeat the question. . Neither approve nor disapprove of anything s/he says. No eye-rolling or voice sarcasm.  S/he talks, you listen.  You get your turn when you prove you see her or his logic and feel with her or him. . Keep your voice neutral.  Say what you hear tills/he says you’ve got it right. . When a lover, friend or seeker says three or four sentences, lift a hand.  She or he stops, you paraphrase.  Signal before s/he says too much for you to mirror. . The more you listen actively, the more you remember and the longer you let your lovers, friends and seekers speak without signaling.  Even when one of them speaks for several minutes and you finally signal, you faithfully mirror her or him. . Suppose she or he says, “You never take out trash.”  Suppose, also, you know what s/he said is untrue.  Don’t say, “I dumped trash Wednesday.” Instead, say, in a non-argumentative tone, “You said I never take out trash.”  Then say, “That right?”  . If she or he says, “No,” or says you didn’t fully and, to her or his satisfaction, get the gist of what s/he said, say, “Say that again.”  Then, patiently, again say what s/he said until s/he’s satisfied you understand.  If you just can’t paraphrase to her or his satisfaction with your words, repeat word-for-word till s/he says, “Correct.” . If s/he says, “Right,” nods her/his head “yes” or otherwise shows you repeated correctly, ask, “Is there more?” . Validate . When s/he says, “I said all I want on this subject,” summarize her or his logic, outline the main points.  Say, “You make sense because….” Then review how, from the way s/he related the subject s/he discussed, s/he makes sense. . Ask her or him if you got the logic and main points right.  If s/he thinks you missed something important, s/he asks you to mirror that.  When s/he agrees that you’ve understood her or his logic, go to the empathy phase of active listening. . Empathize . Put yourself emotionally in her (just use the right gender from here on, him or her, his or hers, he or she) place.  Imagine you feel as she did about what she had you mirror and validate.   In her place, do you feel mad, sad, glad or scared?  Then complete this: “I imagine you feel…”  Guess how she feels, what emotions she probably experiences. . Then ask her, “Is that what you felt?”   And “What else did you feel?” . Request Action . Ask her, “What specific behaviors would you like to request to help you heal the pain you shared?”  Alternately, ask, “What can I do to make your life better this week?” . Next, your turn to speak while she mirrors, validates and empathizes with you, then agrees to a behavior you request. . LISTEN WITH LOVE . Take turns with a lover, friend or seeker.  Read the cues in bold print aloud to each other. Give her or him time (take five breaths) to consider and respond.  Where you see ###, you talk.  Read words in brackets [ ] to yourself. . .HOW CAN I/A LOVER [choose one] PLEASE YOU DEEPLY?...

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