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MERGE WITH LOVERS; DISSOLVE SEPARATENESS ILLUSION: Keyes youtubes, Lessin Article, Do-It-With Partners Exercise

»Posted by on Mar 10, 2013 in Articles, Love, Relationships | 1 comment

MERGE WITH LOVERS; DISSOLVE SEPARATENESS ILLUSION: Keyes youtubes, Lessin Article, Do-It-With Partners Exercise

by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra www.schooloftantra.net Heed what’s hard handling your honeys. Difficulties handling them expose your expectations that they’ll do what you want or forgo what you forbid.   But when you need your mates to make you happy, you produce pain. Sometimes you get your way, but sometimes you don’t. Why upset yourself over it?   Defeat your addictions–rigid conditioning that makes you hurt and angry. Addictions are hopes that hurt. They dictate how you and your darlings must relate for you to feel fulfilled.]   Replace your addictive demands with preferences. Get what you prefer and you smile. And if you don’t get what you prefer, you don’t cry. Preferences are wants which, when unmet, don’t make you moan.   IF YOUR PRECIOUS PEOPLE WON’T PERFORM AS YOU PREFER, PLEASE YOURSELF AND STILL APPRECIATE THEM   END SUFFERING: UPLEVEL ADDICTIVE DEMANDS TO PREFERENCES   1) Love is eternal, involvement, negotiable. Love your lovers forever, celebrate what you’ve shared. Wish them well and good-loving with whomever they connect, whether or not they keep connecting with you at the level and with the quality you want. You and they blessed each other, facilitated each other’s progress and development in life’s learning. Shower lovers past with appreciations and put your efforts into your currently active loves.   2) Uplevel addictive involvement–that which makes you suffer if you lack the contact you desire–to preference. If your attachment to a certain form of contact (regular alone time with a certain lover) hurts when you do not get it, transform that addictive demand (she must spend a certain amount and quality of 1×1 time with me) to a preference (I’m ok, in fact, quite happy, whether she does or does not spend time with me). Just keep telling your truth without blame or judgement to all concerned and enjoy what you’ve got, don’t sweat what you’ve not.   3) Reprogram the subself within you that perseveres in addictive behavior; find out when it came into your life, how it served you then, what it has done throughout the years to protect your vulnerability and what its interest is in holding on to the current diminishing relationship. Seriously consider other, more ecologically homoeostatic means of meeting the needs of this persevering subself’s addictive demands.   4) Never regard yourself as a second-class human, who must always defer to others’ needs. You’re sovereign; you must make yourself happy. Empathize with your own emotions, analyze your needs, make loving requests of those who care about you, requests that, if lovingly met, meet your needs. As much as possible, meet your own needs and experience the joy that attracts others to you.   MERGE WITH LOVERS; DISSOLVE SEPARATENESS ILLUSION   Here’s an exercise to do with each of your lovers. Do it and you and they’ll feel your oneness.   Sit with a partner. Maintain eye contact. Don’t touch.   Tell her or him, “I feel separateness from you when I say to myself … (specify all of the rational and irrational, serious and trivial, crazy and stupid and clear and astute things you say to yourself that make you feel separate from her or him.) Exhaust your list.   Your partner sits calmly and says, “Thank you” after each separation you enumerate.   Then have your partner tell you, “I feel separateness from you when I tell myself….” Encourage your partner to exhaust her or his separatenesses: calmly say “Thank you” for each.   Then join hands. Tell your partner, “I feel oneness with you when I tell myself ... (complete with all the things you tell yourself which make you feel close to your partner..) Reverse roles. Discuss your experience with this exercise.   When you raise your consciousness to the dyadic level you still keep your bodymind awareness, your distinct personality and your inner voices, should you choose to temporarily identify with them.   When you and your significant other expand consciousness of yourselves to internalize each others’ wisdom and concerns, you are on the dyadic level of consciousness. The energy, richness, complexity and awareness the two of you share exceeds the sum of both your individual bodymind energies and aware nesses. Your couple synergy is enhanced when you use your relationship so each of you grows and has more to give to the relationship as well.   Ken Keyes provided an excellent model for such synergistic dyadic consciousness. [Keyes, K., Handbook to Higher Consciousness, 5th Edition,: Living Love, 1979 and A Conscious Person’s Guide to Relationships, Kentucky: Living Love, 1979.]  Keyes says to welcome upsets in your relationship. You can use upsets to raise your consciousness....

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TANTRA TEACHER vs DETRACTORS a funny but instructive youtube

»Posted by on Feb 20, 2013 in Articles, Chakras, Classes, Love, Polyamory, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra, Traditional, Videos | 1 comment

TANTRA TEACHER vs DETRACTORS a funny but instructive youtube

I knew Penn and Teller would be hostile but my message is so powerful that nothing, not even these clowns, can diminish the truth of all-chakra consciousness. Tantra, most think, enhances and sacralizes sex; tantra helps you enjoy sex more, feel spiritual and experience oneness between you and your lovers. True. Yet sex contributes but one seventh of tantra. Sex energy comprises one of seven energies or chakras in humans’ bodies. In All-Chakra Tantra, the word tantra means weave. As a tantra teacher–a tantrica, daka, dakini or sacred lover–you teach seekers to weave, coordinate and orchestrate sexuality with tantra’s other six-sevenths. Tantra tells younicator and visionary–influence your sexual chakra as well. CENTER yourself to weave. Hear which inner voices–aka subselves–your sexual interests activate. Integrate the subselves who cluster at your sex chakra with all subs at all your chakras. Choreograph the interplay of your subselves and the subselves your lovers present.: see, accept, choreograph and integrate your emotional, sexual, assertive, romantic, communicative, wise and spiritual–as well as your sexual–aspects. You weave your inner aspects, like a carpet’s weft through its seven chakra warp. You also weave your inner voices with voices within your lovers. In All-Chakra Tantra, we don’t ignore the sex chakra.  Sex Chakra energy affects the other six chakras–vulnerability, power, romance, communication, knowledge and higher ­consciousness.  These chakras–child, hero, lover, communicator and visionary–influence your sexual chakra as well.          CENTER yourself to weave.  Hear which inner voices–aka subselves–your sexual interests activate.  Integrate the subselves who cluster at your sex chakra with all subs at all your chakras.  Choreograph the interplay of your subselves and the subselves your lovers present.    ...

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HOW TO REALLY LOVE A WOMAN: TANTRA DATE PHOTOS by Janet Kira Lessin

»Posted by on Feb 2, 2013 in Articles, Sexuality, Tantra | 0 comments

HOW TO REALLY LOVE A WOMAN: TANTRA DATE PHOTOS by Janet Kira Lessin Hubby Sasha and I are proud to bring the following photos to you. It took many years for me to be brave enough to allow them to be taken. However, I believe so firmly in the loving, healing path of tantra that I felt it is essential that this information get out to you and those in your life. These photos are taken from our best selling book, How to Really Love A Woman, which explains the first date in a series of tantra dates that we call Adore Aphrodite. We teach this technique at our Seminars and Tantra School. I hope you enjoy them. . Schedule your session today, click HERE. . Buy the Book, click HERE. . If you’re a minor, don’t click the link below: . http://www.schooloftantra.net/Photos/WomanTantraDatePhotos.htm . FOUR TANTRIC TRYSTS guides you as Giver as you adore and nurture a female lover–your Receiver. You show her she can trust you as her healer. You help her heal herself and adopt strategies to love wisely and expand her sexual ecstacy. . When you’ve trysted tantrically, you love each other more and better. . In Tantra Tryst 1, Activate Your Chakras, you open your energy vortexes (chakras) to each other. You share your diverse inner-voices. Learn, in this tryst, what hurts and scares your Inner Kids. See how you grew subselves to block pain and fear. You discern when to lower your subself shields, share vulnerability and connect with each other. You synergize your inner selves’ dance within and between you. . In Tryst 2, Reprogram Her Parental Imprints, you help your Receiver escape the automatic limits her rearers and culture inculcated. Then she reacts to you as you, not as a stand-in for a parent. . Tryst 3, Refine How You Relate, you guide her through exercises to refine how you and she relate. You establish the trust you need to nurture, adore, delight and worship her so she can safely express everything to you. . Tryst 4, Heal Her Heart, Encourage Her Ejaculation, you touch her vagina inside and trigger repressed, suppressed and under-expressed pain she expresses as you touch, pain that blocks her full sexual sensuality and inhibits ejaculatory orgasms. You help her express pain and release her blocks so she can, when she chooses, ejaculate. You stroke her inner clitoris and urethral sponge till she ejaculates and rises to new delight heights. . Available in Hardcover, Paperback and Kindle from...

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LESSONS LEARNED WITH PAST LOVERS APPLY NOW: Tantra School, Part 3, Web Radio, Article

»Posted by on Jan 13, 2013 in All-Chakra Tantra, Aquarian Radio, History, Love, Radio, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra | 1 comment

Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio  on Blog Talk Radio Click link above for radio show, where Janet Lessin shows you how to use the cues below, then try it yourself with a partner.   LESSONS LEARNED WITH PAST LOVERS APPLY NOW by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra www.schooloftantra.com   LOOK AT EACH OF YOUR LOVERS’ LOVES: Review What they Learned   Invite a lover to review lovers from the past.  Alternately, take a non-lover of yours through the cue sequence below. Say the review will help her or him better current relationships. Look at the events, sexual and emotional sharing in each of her or his prior pairings. Review the developmental tasks s/he worked on in the relationships and note what s/he and they learned from being together. Then she sees how s/he can apply what s/he learned to you or, if you are facilitating a person who’s not your lover, how s/he can apply what s/he learned to her or his current loves.   Lie on your back. Relax. Close your eyes.   Feel your genitals–your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.   Reconsider your lovers–the significant ones-from days gone. Tell me their names, I’ll write them.  Lover 1 [Write it] Lover 2 Lover 3 Lover 4 Lover 5 Etc.   For each lover listed, Tell me the YEARS you were involved and how old you were,  [Write them next to the names indicated]   Say where you were when you related to this lover the key EVENTS in your relationship [Take notes next to the names indicated].   Tell me your EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL SHARING with each.   Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with each.   Summarize the events, sexual and emotional sharing and the developmental tasks we’ve experienced together.    Imagine [Lover 1: Say name] is before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her .   Express to him or her any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say.   Tell him or her your RESENTMENTS.   As you imagine him or her before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from him or her .   Say, to him or her, your APPRECIATIONS    Tell him or her what you REGRET. Say what you FORGIVE him or her for.   What subselves, inner voices or attitudes did you develop as a result of this relationship?   Tell [Lover 1: Say his or her name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together.    FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.    Bid him or her FAREWELL.    How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [Lover 1: Say his or her name]?    How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me?   [or with your current lovers] ***************************************************************************** LOVER 2 Imagine [Lover 2: Say his or her name] is before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.     Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say fully   Tell him or her your RESENTMENTS    As you imagine she or he before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from him or her.   Say, to him or her, your APPRECIATIONS    Tell him or her what you REGRET. Tell him or her what you FORGIVE him or her for.   What subselves, inner voices or attitudes did you develop as a result of this relationship?   Tell [Lover 2: Say his or her name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being him or her.   FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.    Bid him or her FAREWELL.    How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [Lover 2: Say his or her name]?   How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me/a lover [select appropriate object]?   LOVERS 3 – N : CONTINUE QUESTIONS ABOVE FOR LOVERS 1 & 2 FOR EACH OF ADDITIONAL MAJOR LOVE.   Let us know on this site or schooloftanta@aol.com how this exercise affected you and your current relationship....

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MANAGE YOUR IMAGO: Web Radio, Article, youtubes

»Posted by on Jan 11, 2013 in Aquarian Radio, Articles, Education, Love, Radio, Relationships, Tantra | 0 comments

Web Radio with Janet and Sasha Lessin & Article by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.                 Click, listen, then do the exercise below with a partner. Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio IMAGO HEALING: Based on Hendrix, H., 1988, Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples   Your Imago’s a part of you, an internal energy system of which you’re unconscious; it’s opposite inner voices you ordinarily use to deal with the world. Opposites attract. You see reflections of this part in people that attract you. The Imago makes you seek a lover like it, so you can recognize that you, too, have, albeit in underdeveloped form, the very aspects that you find first so attractive, then so annoying in a lover. Your Imago focuses you on men or women that embody what you loved about your parents and prior lovers but also what you hated about them. A lover your Imago makes you select can also hurt you like Mom, Dad and your exes did. Your imago hopes, when it gets you and a lover to create scenes where she or he could hurt you again, she or he’ll do better than your parents and ex-lovers and thus heal the hurts of your past.   Facilitate a lover or a friend; take her or him through the cues below; he or she’s your Receiver. The Receiver seeks in you (or a lover you’ll represent) what s/he loved about his/her caregivers. You also represent what s/he hated about them. You can hurt him or her like they did or heal him or her when you love instead of hurt her or him. In the exercise below, your Receiver experiences his or her Inner Child, the voice of his or her emotional reality. Heal Hurts teaches the Receiver to defuse over-reactions to you or the lover you represent and to manage emotional reactions based on the Receiver’s past so s/he doesn’t distance you or his or her lovers now based on what happened before. S/he learns to release pent-up feelings and rescript once-appropriate but now-limiting rules.   HEAL HURTS   When the Receiver responds to the cues that comprise Heal Hurts, s/he also learns to say what s/he wants without masking reactions. S/he requests healing behavior from you and asks you to affirm his or her new openness.   Read cues in bold type aloud to the Receiver. Exception: read anything enclosed in square brackets [like this] silently. Sit facing her or him. Center yourself or move into a therapist role. Erect a psychic filter so you can avoid reacting to her or his content and stay present for her or his healing. Shield and center yourself in case s/he says you hurt, upset or frustrated her or him.   Where you need to respond, you’ll see this ###. Where you see ***, it’s her or his cue to respond: give her a few breaths’ time to do so. If s/he doesn’t respond, pause several breaths and read the cue again.   Tell me about an UPSET, frustration, problem or issue you have with me, with your current partner or with your last lover, using this formula. “When you … , I feel … and react by … to hide my fear of … because what I really want is …” [Example, if needed, “When you … mock me, I feel … hurt and angry and react by… withdrawing or attacking to hide my fear of … being humiliated because what I really want is … respect.”]   “When you … ***, [State upsetting behavior]   I feel … ***   and react by … ***   to hide my fear of … ***   because what I really want is …” ***   Is there anything else you’d like to say about that? *** [When Receiver’s said as much as you can accurately remember, read the next cue.]   Wait. Let me know if I’m getting you right. You’re saying … ### [Finish the sentence, summarizing in your own words (paraphrasing) what s/he said.] [If s/he corrects you, paraphrase her corrections and ask if you’ve got them right till s/he says, “Correct.”] [Continue paraphrasing and asking if there’s more until s/he fully expresses what s/he thinks and feels about what frustrates or upsets her. When Receiver says, “that’s all”, complete the next two sentences to her or him.]   You make sense, because … ### [Say how Receiver, if you put yourself into her or his head-space, makes sense.]   I imagine you must feel … ###   Is that what...

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What You Do In Tantra School

»Posted by on Jan 3, 2013 in All-Chakra Tantra, Love, Radio, Relationships, Spirituality, Tantra | 0 comments

1/3/13 WHAT YOU DO IN TANTRA SCHOOL, Part 1 Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio All-Chakra Tantra Web Radio Coaching, Counseling, Teaching:Your Right-livelihood Click arrow on embed to hear how Janet experienced Tantra School, and how you can teach people to love more. As she relates her experiences, Dr. Lessin offers home experiences for you as you listen, and expansions of the lessons on www.schooloftantra.com *** Tantra Teacher Training For LEVEL I CERTIFICATION OF COMPLETION BY CORRESPONDENCE, you take ninety hours or so (less is ok as long as you have satisfactory completions to e-mail (within four months) your answers to the questions in this book. Dr. Lessin responds by e-mail and may ask you to correct or expand some of your answers. The School then awards you a diploma as a School of Tantra Level 1 Certified Tantra Dakini, Daka, Lover or Practitioner (you choose the title).   When you complete Level 1, you can take Level 2 training. When you finish Level 2, you may proceed to Level 3. Each level requires about 90 hours homestudy.Level I Courses   Overview All-Chakra Tantra Peruse Primal Therapy Mend Mom’s Mistakes When You Mate Delete Dad’s Defects in Your Lovelife Listen Actively, Roleplay, Communicate Compassion Manage Imagos: Heal Hurts Survey Sexual Stories Dialogue Inner Voices, Witness & Center Satisfy Self, Suppress Squirt, Sustain Sex Worship Women Fathom Physical Form Learn Chakra Yoga Basics Level II Courses Practice Pujas–Personal, Pair and Poly Ponder Paths Embrace Blessings Gratify Guys Gestalt Authentic Contact Delve Dreams Heed Holotropic Breathing to Refine Relationships Rate Relations Fathom Finitude & Embrace Eternity to Ripen Relations & Sacralize Sex Learn From Lives Lapsed Cultivate Uplifting Communication Intermediate Chakra Yoga Level III Courses Lead Tantra Rituals Hone Hypnotherapy For Sacred Loving Train in Tantra Theosophy & Temple Transformation Technology Release Discarnates & Demonics Apply Existential Analysis Learn Living Love Guide Shamanic Journeywork Deprogram Abduction, Cult Inculcation and Black Project Imprints Facilitate Opposite Sex Student through All-Chakra Tantra Text Facilitate Same Sex Student through All-Chakra Tantra Text Facilitate Pairs through All-Chakra Tantra Text Practice Pranayama   Homework Submission   Respond in e-mail to each query or direction preceded by an asterisk *. Paste each numbered question and instruction (example: CTD 103:12) ) you respond to in an e-mail to Dr. Lessin at schooloftantra@aol.com. Indicate the email address to which you want Dr. Lessin to return his e-comments on your homework Send a few pages every week or so. Dr. Lessin indicates (in his e-mail reactions to what you send) which of your responses to consider further, correct and/or resubmit.   READ COURSE DESCRIPTIONS   Level 1 CTD 101 OVERVIEW ALL-CHAKRA TANTRA In All-Chakra Tantra, you center yourself and orchestrate your chakras–inner power plants that generate security, sexuality, power, love, communication, vision, and feelings of oneness with everything and everyone. You learn a chant and a ritual that teaches you how to waken each chakra.   CTD 102 PERUSE PRIMAL THERAPY Parents either meet need or fail to meet your needs for love as a child in a way you directly sense. If they truely love you, they hold you and encourage you to develop in your own direction at your own pace. Explore symbolic resonances of any love you lacked. Learn, for yourself and clients, how imprints rule your lives now, dictate the ecology of inner voices, dominate your bodies, project into dreams and direct spiritual aspirations. Probe imprints from conception, gestation, labor, delivery, childhood. Learn how to modify imprints to suit life today.   CTD 103 MEND MOM’S MISTAKES WHEN YOU MATE One aspect of our personalities, the Inner Brat, developed from our emotional pain and from adopting our parents’ worst traits. If Mom or the females that had charge of us when we were wee did not completely love and accept themselves and others, we copied this. She couldn’t model self-love and overflowing love to others if her parents, in turn, didn’t model it. When we’re unloving and self-defeating, we express negative love, some of which we adopted from her. In this class we, then those we facilitate learn to stop getting even with Mom, to lovingly divorce her, rise above her negative example, realize she’ll never meet our childish demand to love us with nothing asked in return. First we prosecute Mom: we emote anger for her example and for wrongs she did us. Then we put yourself in her place and get how she was molded into giving us negative attitudes by her parents’ attitudes. The class ends when we and our partners experience deep compassion, forgiveness and love toward our mothers. Then, in homework, you...

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