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TANTRA TEACHER vs DETRACTORS a funny but instructive youtube

»Posted by on Feb 20, 2013 in Articles, Chakras, Classes, Love, Polyamory, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra, Traditional, Videos | 1 comment

TANTRA TEACHER vs DETRACTORS a funny but instructive youtube

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HOW TO REALLY LOVE A WOMAN: TANTRA DATE PHOTOS by Janet Kira Lessin

»Posted by on Feb 2, 2013 in Articles, Sexuality, Tantra | 0 comments

HOW TO REALLY LOVE A WOMAN: TANTRA DATE PHOTOS by Janet Kira Lessin Hubby Sasha and I are proud to bring the following photos to you. It took many years for me to be brave enough to allow them to be taken. However, I believe so firmly in the loving, healing path of tantra that I felt it is essential that this information get out to you and those in your life. These photos are taken from our best selling book, How to Really Love A Woman, which explains the first date in a series of tantra dates that we call Adore Aphrodite. We teach this technique at our Seminars and Tantra School. I hope you enjoy them. . Schedule your session today, click HERE. . Buy the Book, click HERE. . If you’re a minor, don’t click the link below: . http://www.schooloftantra.net/Photos/WomanTantraDatePhotos.htm . FOUR TANTRIC TRYSTS guides you as Giver as you adore and nurture a female lover–your Receiver. You show her she can trust you as her healer. You help her heal herself and adopt strategies to love wisely and expand her sexual ecstacy. . When you’ve trysted tantrically, you love each other more and better. . In Tantra Tryst 1, Activate Your Chakras, you open your energy vortexes (chakras) to each other. You share your diverse inner-voices. Learn, in this tryst, what hurts and scares your Inner Kids. See how you grew subselves to block pain and fear. You discern when to lower your subself shields, share vulnerability and connect with each other. You synergize your inner selves’ dance within and between you. . In Tryst 2, Reprogram Her Parental Imprints, you help your Receiver escape the automatic limits her rearers and culture inculcated. Then she reacts to you as you, not as a stand-in for a parent. . Tryst 3, Refine How You Relate, you guide her through exercises to refine how you and she relate. You establish the trust you need to nurture, adore, delight and worship her so she can safely express everything to you. . Tryst 4, Heal Her Heart, Encourage Her Ejaculation, you touch her vagina inside and trigger repressed, suppressed and under-expressed pain she expresses as you touch, pain that blocks her full sexual sensuality and inhibits ejaculatory orgasms. You help her express pain and release her blocks so she can, when she chooses, ejaculate. You stroke her inner clitoris and urethral sponge till she ejaculates and rises to new delight heights. . Available in Hardcover, Paperback and Kindle from...

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HOW TO REALLY LOVE A WOMAN: in Four Tantric Trysts

»Posted by on Jan 21, 2013 in Books | 0 comments

FOUR TANTRIC TRYSTS guides you as Giver as you adore and nurture a female lover–your Receiver. You show her she can trust you as her healer. You help her heal herself and adopt strategies to love wisely and expand her sexual ecstacy. When you’ve trysted tantrically, you love each other more and better. . In Tantra Tryst 1, Activate Your Chakras, you open your energy vortexes (chakras) to each other. You share your diverse inner-voices. Learn, in this tryst, what hurts and scares your Inner Kids. See how you grew subselves to block pain and fear. You discern when to lower your subself shields, share vulnerability and connect with each other. You synergize your inner selves’ dance within and between you. . In Tryst 2, Reprogram Her Parental Imprints, you help your Receiver escape the automatic limits her rearers and culture inculcated. Then she reacts to you as you, not as a stand-in for a parent. . Tryst 3, Refine How You Relate, you guide her through exercises to refine how you and she relate. You establish the trust you need to nurture, adore, delight and worship her so she can safely express everything to you. . Tryst 4, Heal Her Heart, Encourage Her Ejaculation, you touch her vagina inside and trigger repressed, suppressed and under-expressed pain she expresses as you touch, pain that blocks her full sexual sensuality and inhibits ejaculatory orgasms. You help her express pain and release her blocks so she can, when she chooses, ejaculate. You stroke her inner clitoris and urethral sponge till she ejaculates and rises to new delight heights. . Available in Hardcover, Paperback and Kindle from amazon.com. . Schedule a class/session, click HERE. . Read more/photos, click HERE....

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LESSONS LEARNED WITH PAST LOVERS APPLY NOW: Tantra School, Part 3, Web Radio, Article

»Posted by on Jan 13, 2013 in All-Chakra Tantra, Aquarian Radio, History, Love, Radio, Relationships, Sexuality, Spirituality, Tantra | 1 comment

Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio  on Blog Talk Radio Click link above for radio show, where Janet Lessin shows you how to use the cues below, then try it yourself with a partner.   LESSONS LEARNED WITH PAST LOVERS APPLY NOW by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra www.schooloftantra.com   LOOK AT EACH OF YOUR LOVERS’ LOVES: Review What they Learned   Invite a lover to review lovers from the past.  Alternately, take a non-lover of yours through the cue sequence below. Say the review will help her or him better current relationships. Look at the events, sexual and emotional sharing in each of her or his prior pairings. Review the developmental tasks s/he worked on in the relationships and note what s/he and they learned from being together. Then she sees how s/he can apply what s/he learned to you or, if you are facilitating a person who’s not your lover, how s/he can apply what s/he learned to her or his current loves.   Lie on your back. Relax. Close your eyes.   Feel your genitals–your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.   Reconsider your lovers–the significant ones-from days gone. Tell me their names, I’ll write them.  Lover 1 [Write it] Lover 2 Lover 3 Lover 4 Lover 5 Etc.   For each lover listed, Tell me the YEARS you were involved and how old you were,  [Write them next to the names indicated]   Say where you were when you related to this lover the key EVENTS in your relationship [Take notes next to the names indicated].   Tell me your EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL SHARING with each.   Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with each.   Summarize the events, sexual and emotional sharing and the developmental tasks we’ve experienced together.    Imagine [Lover 1: Say name] is before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her .   Express to him or her any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say.   Tell him or her your RESENTMENTS.   As you imagine him or her before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from him or her .   Say, to him or her, your APPRECIATIONS    Tell him or her what you REGRET. Say what you FORGIVE him or her for.   What subselves, inner voices or attitudes did you develop as a result of this relationship?   Tell [Lover 1: Say his or her name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being together.    FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.    Bid him or her FAREWELL.    How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [Lover 1: Say his or her name]?    How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me?   [or with your current lovers] ***************************************************************************** LOVER 2 Imagine [Lover 2: Say his or her name] is before you. Toward him or her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with him or her.     Express toward [Lover 2] any WITHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say fully   Tell him or her your RESENTMENTS    As you imagine she or he before you, tell him or her your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from him or her.   Say, to him or her, your APPRECIATIONS    Tell him or her what you REGRET. Tell him or her what you FORGIVE him or her for.   What subselves, inner voices or attitudes did you develop as a result of this relationship?   Tell [Lover 2: Say his or her name] WHAT YOU LEARNED from being him or her.   FORGIVE YOURSELF aloud for not doing better.    Bid him or her FAREWELL.    How, if you had it to do over, would you DO BETTER in the relationship with [Lover 2: Say his or her name]?   How can you apply that improvement to your relationship with me/a lover [select appropriate object]?   LOVERS 3 – N : CONTINUE QUESTIONS ABOVE FOR LOVERS 1 & 2 FOR EACH OF ADDITIONAL MAJOR LOVE.   Let us know on this site or schooloftanta@aol.com how this exercise affected you and your current relationship....

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MANAGE YOUR IMAGO: Web Radio, Article, youtubes

»Posted by on Jan 11, 2013 in Aquarian Radio, Articles, Education, Love, Radio, Relationships, Tantra | 0 comments

Web Radio with Janet and Sasha Lessin & Article by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.                 Click, listen, then do the exercise below with a partner. Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio IMAGO HEALING: Based on Hendrix, H., 1988, Getting the Love You Want : A Guide for Couples   Your Imago’s a part of you, an internal energy system of which you’re unconscious; it’s opposite inner voices you ordinarily use to deal with the world. Opposites attract. You see reflections of this part in people that attract you. The Imago makes you seek a lover like it, so you can recognize that you, too, have, albeit in underdeveloped form, the very aspects that you find first so attractive, then so annoying in a lover. Your Imago focuses you on men or women that embody what you loved about your parents and prior lovers but also what you hated about them. A lover your Imago makes you select can also hurt you like Mom, Dad and your exes did. Your imago hopes, when it gets you and a lover to create scenes where she or he could hurt you again, she or he’ll do better than your parents and ex-lovers and thus heal the hurts of your past.   Facilitate a lover or a friend; take her or him through the cues below; he or she’s your Receiver. The Receiver seeks in you (or a lover you’ll represent) what s/he loved about his/her caregivers. You also represent what s/he hated about them. You can hurt him or her like they did or heal him or her when you love instead of hurt her or him. In the exercise below, your Receiver experiences his or her Inner Child, the voice of his or her emotional reality. Heal Hurts teaches the Receiver to defuse over-reactions to you or the lover you represent and to manage emotional reactions based on the Receiver’s past so s/he doesn’t distance you or his or her lovers now based on what happened before. S/he learns to release pent-up feelings and rescript once-appropriate but now-limiting rules.   HEAL HURTS   When the Receiver responds to the cues that comprise Heal Hurts, s/he also learns to say what s/he wants without masking reactions. S/he requests healing behavior from you and asks you to affirm his or her new openness.   Read cues in bold type aloud to the Receiver. Exception: read anything enclosed in square brackets [like this] silently. Sit facing her or him. Center yourself or move into a therapist role. Erect a psychic filter so you can avoid reacting to her or his content and stay present for her or his healing. Shield and center yourself in case s/he says you hurt, upset or frustrated her or him.   Where you need to respond, you’ll see this ###. Where you see ***, it’s her or his cue to respond: give her a few breaths’ time to do so. If s/he doesn’t respond, pause several breaths and read the cue again.   Tell me about an UPSET, frustration, problem or issue you have with me, with your current partner or with your last lover, using this formula. “When you … , I feel … and react by … to hide my fear of … because what I really want is …” [Example, if needed, “When you … mock me, I feel … hurt and angry and react by… withdrawing or attacking to hide my fear of … being humiliated because what I really want is … respect.”]   “When you … ***, [State upsetting behavior]   I feel … ***   and react by … ***   to hide my fear of … ***   because what I really want is …” ***   Is there anything else you’d like to say about that? *** [When Receiver’s said as much as you can accurately remember, read the next cue.]   Wait. Let me know if I’m getting you right. You’re saying … ### [Finish the sentence, summarizing in your own words (paraphrasing) what s/he said.] [If s/he corrects you, paraphrase her corrections and ask if you’ve got them right till s/he says, “Correct.”] [Continue paraphrasing and asking if there’s more until s/he fully expresses what s/he thinks and feels about what frustrates or upsets her. When Receiver says, “that’s all”, complete the next two sentences to her or him.]   You make sense, because … ### [Say how Receiver, if you put yourself into her or his head-space, makes sense.]   I imagine you must feel … ###   Is that what...

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