Posted by on Dec 16, 2012 in Articles, Love | 1 comment

DOUBLE PENETRATION: A PATH TO ENLIGHTENMENT by Janet Kira Lessin . When you experience, as I did, two or more of your male poly lovers simultaneous entering you in tantric oneness, you open your inner stargate, touch the face of  God and remember your source. As you embrace two or even three magic wands, the  lingams (as we call penises) with your most sensitive inner sensual shrines, you  feel ecstasy, get total personal and transpersonal recall. You drop concepts of  physics, science and religion and instead zoom, as your multidimensional self,  through space and time. You and the beloveds ntering you merge with divinity,  source of all inchoate forms. Home, you experience everything everyone told you  as illusion and, at the same time, truth. . I had my double penetration satori the third night at a month-long love-in Sasha  and I hosted for nine lovers (five women and four men) on Maui. We’d filled half  our spacious living room with colorfully-covered mattresses. Two of the women  were new to us, but we’d vetted them carefully and knew we’d go deep with them. . Awkward at first, all nine of us eased into nude housekeeping and, by the third  evening, lovemaking. . Up to that third evening together, I’d shared some tantric breath, fondling,  kissing and genital honoring with some, but I mostly made passionate love with  Sash. We nine morphed from one kamasutra-like sexual configuration to the next. . As Sasha lay on his back, I lowered myself onto his wand. We held each other’s gaze, then tongue-kissed; our tongues stroked sacred erotic sectors in each  other’s mouths. . As I opened my cave and took him inside, hugging his wand with my yoni (vagina),  I again got who Sash and I truly are: ancient lovers in modern form. I saw, in  the mirror, my tiny, porcelain-like body draped over his deeply tanned athletic  form. . As we moved our pelvises in our eternal rhythm, Sash delicately tapped, then probed my rosebud (as we call the anal opening) with his finger, preparing me  for delights to come. My amrita (female ejaculate) flowed and we sang out in  the rising momentum of our lovemaking. . Then new hands, not Sasha’s, reverently caressed my bottom. I turned and saw  Woody–our beautiful slender, blond, long-time lover ask me with his eyes to  join us. “Yes, please,” I invited. . I leaned forward, breasts against Sasha’s chest. Woody, from behind me, eased  his wand to where Sasha and I joined genitals. I opened  my amrita-lubricated  yoni to let Woody’s wand snuggle in, a millimeter at a time, next to Sasha’s  Both lingams fully inside, I squeezed my pc muscles on them and they both  swelled within me. I felt the electricity of Woody’s and Sasha’s wands against each other as both gradually expanded deeper into me. I quivered as waves of  bliss radiated from my yoni where my guys’ penises pulsed. Waves of bliss  became a continuously pulse of pleasure for all three of us as Sasha and Woody’s penises reached my A- spot, the erogenous area next to my cervix. The  three of us lost our separate self-senses, experienced triadic consciousness. , I’d heard that some sages achieve pure grace, but never believed I could while  alive. But here I was in continuous euphoric bliss, one unending...

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Posted by on Dec 3, 2012 in Books, Sexuality, Tantra | 4 comments

MY CLITORIS HAS WRITTEN A BOOK Are you kidding? What is this? The autobiography of a woman’s sexual organ? Who would even think of reading something so weird? Let alone writing it! . Well, remember ‘Vagina Monologues’? Remember how liberating it was to listen to all those women talk about their vaginas? This is different. It could be called: An Autonomous Woman’s Guide to the Healing and Awakening of Her Sacred Sexual Nature but I Clitoris is more to the point! It’s a kind of sexual re-education in poetry for women: youth, elders and everyone in between. The kind of education that can only come from the clitoris because only the clitoris knows what it’s like to be a clitoris! “The only organ in all known biology whose sole purpose is pleasure”. . Once you read I Clitoris and practice what ‘she’ preaches – you will be more empowered – not necessarily as the love goddess of the millennium, but as a real woman. One who knows her sexual self enough to share herself with dignity, passion and intelligence – when she chooses. . If you are a mother wondering how to talk sensitively to your daughter about teen pregnancy and sexual desire and how confusing it is to feel all that stuff let alone talk about it, you probably want to first read this yourself – and then share it with your daughter. . If you are a woman recovering from sexual abuse of any kind (and there are lots of kinds, believe me), then you probably need to read this and get a new sense of hope for yourself in a world where female violation is globally rampant. Most importantly, you will get some unique and profound (not to mention fun!) techniques for starting the process of self-healing enough that you can actually enjoy healthy relationships with men, or a partner of your choosing. If you are a guy wondering what is going on in the opposite sex, this book will give you some brand new insights about women and what makes them tick. I Clitoris will make you reconsider what lies between your thighs – in ways mostly sacred, sometimes profane; often sensual and definitely whimsical. . This book will make you laugh and maybe cry as you awaken to whole new understanding of Woman. It’s really easy to read even if the language is a bit unusual. And it is hand illustrated, making it quite beautiful. So far it is available as an e-book, but if you really want a hard copy, it can be done – individually printed just for you. You will then become the owner of a first edition of what promises to be a classic in the realm of enlightened sexuality. . Some Testimonials: . “Jaiia is a true bard, great teacher and an amazing artist who combines her wisdom and art to give us this delightful, informative and revolutionary book, with messages which, taken to heart, can uplift our species.” Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra . “I am reading slowly… I don’t want to finish it. How’s that for LOVING “I CLITORIS” … It’s a tactile piece of work, just as pearls love to be rubbed softly and with tenderness…I have printed it out and placed a copy...

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Chakra 5: VITALIZE YOUR VOICE Internet Radio & Articles on Expression

Posted by on Nov 13, 2012 in Love, Relationships, Tantra | 0 comments

Chakra 5: VITALIZE YOUR VOICE  Internet Radio & Articles on Expression Click the arrow in the embed above and hear our show. Chakra 5: VITALIZE YOUR VOICE . Article: Chakra 5: Vitalize Your Voice : SPEAK OR STAY SILENT, BUT SING by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra . 5th Chakra: throat, expression.  Hear each of your inner expressive voices as well as any voices that suppress expression. . For situations you face, let these voices of expression and of privacy speak to you internally. Ask them, . What do you want? . What needs drive what you want? . How do you aid me?  . What do you, in this situation, offer lovers and humanity? . Then you, the whole person, can choose what, when and how to show (or conceal) your inner voices to other people. . Honor your beloveds’ many voices too. . Speak authentically, kindly & helpfully. . Sing. . Sanctify oral sex. . *** . Activate Your Throat Chakra . Hands at throat, three times, chant ham.  With each ham you chant, imagine the bud of a blue rose appears in your throat.  And as you say ham, let the blue rose open and expand your options of talk or silence. . Hear, in your mind’s ear, your throat singing your song, a song that reminds you of who you are. . Cradle a partner’s throat in your hands. . Chant ham three times to each other.  Or chant it to the mirror. . Take turns; SING your favorite songs–songs that expresses who you are. . TICKLE each other till you giggle; this, too, opens your throat chakra. . Finish this sentence with each other as many times as you can: “YOU DON’T KNOW I ….”  . Weigh the risk of your partner’s probable reaction in the following completions against the possibility of more intimacy.  You may want a neutral witness to help you through any upset you fear the candor might trigger. . Notice WHAT YOU DREAD DIVULGING; magnify this fear and finish: “I have secrets so bad that if you knew you’d ….”  . “It’s hardest to tell you …. [Complete] . “I risk our relation by revealing ….”  [Complete] , ENACT YOUR NARRATOR . Personify your communicative chakra, the subself that shares or suppresses what you say.  . Relate your concerns about what your person reveals.  .   What do you need to feel safe to express authentically?  . If you dictated the truth to the world, how would it change?  . EXPRESS YOURSELF AUTHENTIC TO THE DEGREE YOU CHOOSE Take turns answering these questions to someone you’d like to know better and whom you’d like to know you better. Before I die, I intend to … The biggest mistake I ever made was … The biggest challenges in my life now are … I’d be willing to die for … My two most treasured memories of love are … The things that make those I live with a pleasure to live with are … The best and worst things about my sex life are … The features I like most and the ones I like least about my body are … One sexual fantasy I’d like fulfilled is … What I like least about you is … What I...

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Chakra 4: GIVE,GET, BE LOVE Internet Radio & Articles by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

Posted by on Nov 3, 2012 in Love, Polyamory, Relationships, Tantra | 1 comment

Chakra 4: GIVE,GET, BE LOVE Internet Radio & Articles . Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio   Click the arrow in the embed above and hear our show.  Chakra 4, Give,Get, Be Love . . HEED YOUR HEART: Exercises with Tantric Partner by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra . Do these exercises and you and your partner will open up your heart chakras and lovingly integrate your reactions to all your own inner voices, to each other and to the world. . Face each other in the Open Heart Pose Below: . Left legs forward, stretch your arms back, palms toward one another.  Open your chests to each other. .   Close your eyes.  Pretend you each STAND BEFORE SOMEONE you love–other than each other.  Beam love to the person you imagine before you. .   Finish the sentence in italics below aloud as you imagine a person you love faces you. You and s/he each speak at the same time to the persons you imagine (ignore for now what your partner vocalizes): “Here’s what I love about you ….”  (Remember, this is the person you imagine, not your actual partner; you’ll get to your partner in a bit). .   Imagine the person you visualize sends love to you; receive it. . Eyes still closed, broadcast love from your heart to your family, community and humanity.   . Open your eyes.  Beam love to each other.   . Access what you love about each other.  Then sit together.   . Say whom you saw and felt love toward when you had your eyes closed.  Share what you thought and felt when you sent love to her or him. .   Tell each other what you thought and felt when you sent love to your family.   . What did you think and feel when you sent love to the world? .   Complete, to each other: “WHAT I LOVE ABOUT YOU IS ….”.   EMBODY AFFECTION . Become your Love Chakra. Say what you want.  Say why you want that. .   How would your person live if you, Romantic subself, were the sole voice she or he heeded. . How do you balance your Giver and Taker subselves. . Relate what you’d do if you dictated love on Earth. .   *** . APPRECIATE  PLEASER & TAKER TOO: Center your Heart Center When You Both Give & Get Love .   Read the cues in bold below aloud to her; give her a few minutes to respond to each. .   Sit on this cushion–the place for your CENTER, where you  hear your inner selves. .   Tell me about your Pleaser, your nice part, that makes other people happy. .   What’s your Pleaser voice like? . What does it do for you. . Shift to a new position, a seat for PLEASER. . Hi.  Enact Pleaser.  Say what you do for    [partner’s name]. . When did your life as distinct Pleaser subself start? . What’s your history,Pleaser? . How do you protectherfrom  hurt, fear and insecurity. . What have you contributed to her or him? . Say what you’d like her to acknowledge and appreciate. . Thanks.  Let her return to Center position. . Hi, Center.  Tell me about your...

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DELVE DREAM DRAMAS by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

Posted by on Oct 31, 2012 in Love | 0 comments

DELVE DREAM DRAMAS by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. DRAMATIZE DREAMS .   Treat every element in your dreams as an aspect of your experience.   Create dialogues with the elements of the dream for messages about your current being-in-the-world.  Work with your dreams by reversing figure and background, having your conflicted parts  talk to each other, owning your projections, presentifying fantasy material, encountering your repressions, and extracting existential messages.   . Do the experiment below with a partner. Explore and risk self-awareness as deeply as y u choose, and be aware of when you choose to avoid deeper exploration.   . [Read the instructions in bold type to a partner.  Wait for her or him to respond when you see asterisks (***).  Do not read aloud anything between the symbols [and ].    This Dream Path may also be tread without a partner.  Follow the instructions as though a guide read them to you and respond aloud.   . Sit comfortably.  Take ten deep, relaxed breaths. . Recall a DREAM (or make up a dream-like story about your main emotion now). . Tell what happened in the dream, as though it’s happening now.  As you narrate the dream, see, hear, feel and live it more fully than you dreamed.  *** .   [Remind your partner to use present tense (suggesting, for example, changing her or his sentence, “The ape chased me up a tree.” to “The ape’s chasing me …”).] [Note all the dream’s elements, background and foreground (eg: ape, tree, ground and teller).] [Choose a background element (example: the tree).] [Tell your partner:]   . Become the ... [say the name of the background element you selected, e.g., “tree”].   Use its voice and tell what you’re like in the dream. .   Start with, “I’m …” and describe yourself as the … .   [name of the background element]. *** As the … [name of the background element selected], talk to …  [Select a central element, for example, the ape or the dreamer].  *** .   Shift your body and become the … [name of the central element]  and reply.  *** .   Act-out a talk between the … and the … [central and background elements], alternately gesturing, sounding and speaking as one, then the other.  *** .   Now be the … [select a third dream element].  Say what you are like as the … [the 3rd element] and speak to … [select Element 4].  *** .   Shift your body and become the … [Element 4]  and reply.  *** .   Act-out a talk between  … [3] and … [4].  *** .   One-by-one, speak as each of the rest of the characters, props and background details you dreamed and the talks you enact between them.  Enact dialogues among them. *** Imagine that … [select a mysterious dream element like the ape or the tree] has a zipper on its mask  [or a pealing bark, in the case of the tree–make the unmasking metaphor match the symbol]. .   Imagine unzipping the zipper [or peeling off the bark]. Who’s there?   *** .   Speak to this person. *** .   Become her or him and say what your life is like and respond to what the dreamer said. *** . Be yourself again.  Dialogue, alternately playing yourself and the...

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THE POLY LOVE-IN: SHARE SACRED SEXUALITY & Poly Vetting Checklist by Janet Kira Lessin

Posted by on Oct 31, 2012 in Love, Polyamory, Relationships, Spirituality, Tantra | 1 comment

THE POLY LOVE-IN: SHARE SACRED SEXUALITYby Janet Kira Lessin When you and new lovers get together to make love for the first time, you can better honor your fertility and health concerns once you’ve heard each other’s sexual health information, asked questions and perhaps performed a home-HIV test. .   Each of you tells her or his sexual history.  Share your test results for sexually transmitted and other contagious diseases.  Say who and how you’ve touched sexually since your last HIV tests.  Say what methods you used (or didn’t) for disease protection.  State your fertility status. .   Notice your partners’ body language and eye movements as they share their sexual history.  Body and eye movement can indicate truth (people lie most about sex).  Ask questions until you get enough information to make intelligent decisions. .   WEIGH WHAT WANT & DON’T WANT. . Focus, breathe, find your center.  Notice signals your body sends you.  Is your belly tense, head aching, breathing rapid?  Then gather your thoughts and take turns saying what you seek, prefer and what you do not want sexually with each person at the love-in.  Consider all health, emotional and social factors and remember, you can say “No” anytime. .   CENTER YOURSELF BETWEEN INNER GIVER & TAKER .   You may hide your desires if your Giver– an inner voice that says to please others first—dominates you.  Your Giver knows how to make other people comfortable.  Trouble is, sometimes giving becomes more than an option, your Giver becomes your main voice, the only one you hear inside.  Your Giver takes you over and can ignore your own needs. .   If your Giver dominates you, you do what other people want you to do so they’ll like you.  You think, “I’m nice and just naturally try to make them happy first.”  This may please them and you for a while. .   But when you automatically please others first, you suppress your ability to choose how you want to interact sexually with your lovers at the love-in.  The Giver, always gratifying others, keeps your Taker–the part of you that wants to meet your own needs—offstage. .   Offstage in your unconscious, your Taker gathers strength and bitterness and can explode without consideration of your inner ecology or relations with your polymates. .   What works for me is inclusive, pair-bonded loving (Mono-poly), with Sasha and I each having a veto on one another’s sexual involvement.   Sasha never exercises his veto, but I often do.  In inclusive loving, all sexualloving takes place in each others’ presence.  Relating to other couples has to be right for both of us, no small requirement, since we’re bi, eccentric and intense and we need all-round approbation with our lovers. .   Show your protective voices that you can, from your discerning center, experiment with new behaviors and still feel secure.  From your Center, face your sexual self, overcome your family and cultural programming, burn karma, heal trauma and drop inhibitions.  If your love group encourages emotional release and reprogramming, emotions you experience in the love-in give you a chance to heal and learn. .   STATE DESIRES & LIMITATIONS .   Tell each person how you want to share sex with her or him.  You don’t have to justify a...

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Posted by on Oct 29, 2012 in Love, Spirituality, Tantra | 0 comments

CHAKRA ACTIVATION CHANT & CENTERING CHAKRA 3, EMPOWERMENT: Internet Radio & Articles Click arrow to start radio show, then read article below Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra Tantra means weaving. Tantra means weaving all the levels of your awareness, called chakras, within you and between you and those you love. Think of chakras with your body parts––––the bottom of your torso, genitals, belly, heart, throat, brain and neocortex, parts of you aware of your security, sexuality, power, love, talk, clarity and spiritual connection. In tantra, you activate your chakras and merge energy from them with your lovers”. You and your lover together join the ocean of consciousness.***Your first chakra relates to your perineum, your needs to belong, feel safe, secure and healthy, grounded in your material and emotional existence. The tantric weaving of your base chakra and your lover’s means you help your love feel secure emotionally and financially. You encourage wellness as you eat, exercise and stretch together. Massage and touch each other all over..The second chakra relates to your sexuality and reproductive organs, your needs to feel sexual and sensual. In healing sessions involving this chakra, you release emotions and reprogram put-down attitudes. Women respond to vaginal strokes and ejaculate copious, alkaline fluid, amrita. Men learn how to pull up energy instead of ejaculating, to last longer in lovemaking and to orgasm in new ways. .For your third chakra, related to your belly, All-Chakra Tantra teaches you to take what’s yours, assert yourself appropriately. Empower each other. You explore power chakra dynamics with your lover- -how you bond (sometimes sweetly, sometimes sourly) into parental- child roles. Ram meditations help you return to sweet and centered interaction.     The meditations of the forth chakra, associate with your heart, guide you to love, cherish, support, heal and encourage yourself and your lover. You communicate feelings, cultivate sweetness, romance each other. You develop dyadic consciousness, where you identify at the same time with your beloved’s consciousness and your own as parts of a greater awareness, a two-person awareness greater than the sum of your separate identities.     Fifth chakra throat: expression. Hear each of your inner voices (subselves) tell you what they want and need. They say how they aid you, your beloved and humanity. Choose what, when and how to express (or not express) your inner voices to other people. Honor your beloved’s many voices too. Speak authentically, kindly and effectively to each other. In one throat-chakra exercise, you sanctify sex––––speak romantically of sacred sexual organs and acts. .   Chakra 6, Brain: vision, intuition, intellect: Receive, share and expand visions for yourselves, each other, others you love, your community and world. As beloveds, you intuit each others thoughts and feelings, as well as those of your children, parents, friends and others. Access the messages of dream, past life, fantasy, archetype and hero-tale.***For the seventh charka, your crown, the tantric meditations we like invoke awareness of your unity with everyone and everything. Tantra helps you rise to broader perspectives of your crown chakra, yet stay aware of the wisdom of chakras 1-6. Encompass more than Thinker, Pleaser or other subselves. Expand your awareness to more than your body. Expand your perspective to even...

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LISTEN WITH LOVE & SHOW OTHERS: Internet Radio and article

Posted by on Oct 21, 2012 in Love, Relationships | 0 comments

LISTEN WITH LOVE & SHOW OTHERS: Internet Radio and article by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Counseling . Click here and hear intenet radio Listen to internet radio with Aquarian Radio on Blog Talk Radio . Read on and experience personal and relationship improvement or at least acceptance. . Understand how genuine concern, authentic communication and active listening help you, your lovers, friends and clients grow.  Listen actively–mirror, validate and empathize with one another. Give genuine regard: paraphrase, summarize, show sympathy. Roleplay–share advanced feedback; show partners, friends and clients how they come across. . Episode 1, (Oct 25, 2012) SUPPLEMENT: DO-IT-YOURSELF & MAKE IT YOURS FOREVER . Listen to your lovers, friends and clients so they feel felt, so they know you hear, understand and feel them.  Hold them.  Find out what hurt them and how you can help heal those hurts.  Teach them to hear, paraphrase and empathize with you and how to commit to improve.  Practice kind yet authentic confrontation.  Grow from feedback. . LISTEN ACTIVELY . Encourage your lovers, friends, clients and seekers.  Show real concern.  Say what you think and feel.  Mirror and validate each other, feel together; then agree to observable helpful acts. . Mirror . When a lover, friends or client shares, complete, in your own words“You say…”. . Just paraphrase; don’t respond to she or he says. . If s/he questions you, don’t answer.  Instead, say “You ask …?”  and repeat the question. . Neither approve nor disapprove of anything s/he says. No eye-rolling or voice sarcasm.  S/he talks, you listen.  You get your turn when you prove you see her or his logic and feel with her or him. . Keep your voice neutral.  Say what you hear tills/he says you’ve got it right. . When a lover, friend or seeker says three or four sentences, lift a hand.  She or he stops, you paraphrase.  Signal before s/he says too much for you to mirror. . The more you listen actively, the more you remember and the longer you let your lovers, friends and seekers speak without signaling.  Even when one of them speaks for several minutes and you finally signal, you faithfully mirror her or him. . Suppose she or he says, “You never take out trash.”  Suppose, also, you know what s/he said is untrue.  Don’t say, “I dumped trash Wednesday.” Instead, say, in a non-argumentative tone, “You said I never take out trash.”  Then say, “That right?”  . If she or he says, “No,” or says you didn’t fully and, to her or his satisfaction, get the gist of what s/he said, say, “Say that again.”  Then, patiently, again say what s/he said until s/he’s satisfied you understand.  If you just can’t paraphrase to her or his satisfaction with your words, repeat word-for-word till s/he says, “Correct.” . If s/he says, “Right,” nods her/his head “yes” or otherwise shows you repeated correctly, ask, “Is there more?” . Validate . When s/he says, “I said all I want on this subject,” summarize her or his logic, outline the main points.  Say, “You make sense because….” Then review how, from the way s/he related the subject s/he discussed, s/he makes sense. . Ask her or him if you got the logic and main points right.  If s/he thinks...

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TANTRA FOR MEN: Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. Recommends Morris’ Mystery of Woman

Posted by on Oct 8, 2012 in Love, Relationships, Tantra | 0 comments

TANTRA FOR MEN: Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. Recommends Morris’ Mystery of Woman Full of helpful hints and personal sharing by leading tantric practitioners, a book that teaches, titillates, fascinates and...

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Posted by on Oct 6, 2012 in Love | 1 comment

SUPRESS SAMPSON’S SQUIRT: EXERCISE EJACULATORY CONTROL Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra . Men, to keep your utmost attention and sexual interest on your partner longer; avoid ejaculation. Don’t squirt from your lingam (penis) until you’re ready to reduce your sexual excitation. . You might, if you’re older than 30, want to avoid ejaculating even longer–for a week or two. . But don’t avoid intercourse. On the contrary, enjoy intercourse at least once a day, as part of at least one of your two daily tantric connects. . Tune into your body responses. Identify your sensations the moment before your moment of ejaculatory inevitability–the internal feedback you experience just before your seminal vesicles and prostrate empty.* When you feel the sensations that indicate ejaculation is imminent, stop vigorous pelvic thrusting. Hold your partner still too. Shift your attention to your gaze into your partner’s eyes, your hands and mouth (stroke, lick or kiss some very erogenous part of your partner), your voice (say something loving) or your breath. . Breathe deeply. After you inhale, move your chin back toward your throat, but keep your neck straight and long (throat hold). Then exhale. While empty of air, pull your belly in and up toward your throat (belly hold). Tighten your base and pubococcygeal muscles–pretend you’re squeezing to stop urinating or prevent vacating your bowels (pelvis hold). Imagine pulling energy up from your base and genitals, up through your spine, out the top of your head and into your partner’s crown (instead of out your lingam as ejaculate). When you inhale, imagine you’re pulling energy into your genitals from you partners’. Imagine you and your partner are a single energy system, circulating love and energy. . Avoid last-second ejaculatory blocking techniques such as squeezing the head of the lingum or pushing the external perineum into the ejaculatory duct, thus blocking it. Such mechanical interference with fluid being pushed out yet prevented from exit may damage the...

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