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WAND WORK FOR EMOTIONAL DEPTH, EJACULATORY CONTROL By Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra

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WAND WORK FOR EMOTIONAL DEPTH, EJACULATORY CONTROL By Sasha Alex Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra

Dr. Lessin: Janet received this email from a female correspondent I’ll call Sally. Janet referred Sally’s email to me for comment. THE EMAIL Sally: “I had questions regarding the Lingam [penis] massage I have been attempting on a partner and hoping to improve. “I want to know about incorporating oral/fellatio to a lingam massage. We find it difficult to withhold ejaculation during the massage–something we should better control. Dr. L: Try this, from TEACH TANTRA:              Give all-chakra satisfaction to your partner; the experiences below, gives him support and emotional access to bring sex and spirit together for you both when you make love.             Giver, reserve four hours with your Receiver in a lovely, peaceful, private sanctuary.  Arrange music, flowers, incense, food, your costume and your body to delight him.  Then do the exercise, “Put Him in the Mudra”. PUT HIM IN THE MUDRA             Lie on your sides; face each other.                         Put your right hands on each other’s hearts             Put your left hands on one another’s perinewums.  Chant “Lam” three times; tighten your rosebud sphincter after each.  Send energy from your base chakra to his and say, together, “I wish you health, safety and security”.             Move your left hands to each others’ genitals, send each other sexual energy and chant “ Vam” three times and squeeze your PC muscles.  Send each other sexual energy with each “Vam”.  Say, with each other, “I wish you sensual delight and sexual satisfaction.”             Raise left hands to each others’ bellies.  Chant “Ram” three times and, with each “Ram,” send empowerment rays through your hands into each others’ bellies.   Say, to one another, “May you take what’s yours in life.”                        Put your left hands on each others’ right hands, at each others’ hearts.  Send love and chant “Yam” together three times.  Say, “I love you; I receive your love.”                                                            Lift left hands to the back of each other’s throats.  Chant “Ham” three times together and feel the throats vibrate.  Hear (in your mind’s ear) words you’d say, songs you’d sing each other.  Make a sound together.  Say, “Tell your truth.”             Put your foreheads together, look in each other’s eyes, place left hands each others’ heads.  Chant “Ooo” three times and experience psychic contact.  See your other lives together.  Say, “You know.”             Put your left hands on each others’ crowns and chant “Mmm” three times.  Picture radiant energy flashes between your crowns.  Fantasize that you meld into a single spiritual being with two complementary parts–not just a dyad, but a two-part spirit, a synergad.  Say, “We are one.” LESSONS LEARNED WITH LOVERS          Lie on your back.   Relax.   [Give him time]  Put my left hand on your heart, my right on your lingum (penis) and jewels (testicles) and put your hands atop mine.   Close your eyes.  [Take three deep breaths, imagine sending energy into his heart through your right hand, receiving it through your left.]  Ok, let’s gently release our hands; lower them.             Feel your genitals–your sexual chakra; notice your heart, your love chakra.                                    Reconsider your lovers from days gone. Tell me their names, I’ll write them.  ***             Lover 1 [Write it]             Lover 2             Lover 3             Lover 4             Etc.                   For each lover on this list,  starting with LOVER 1:                                                                     a) Tell me the YEARS you were involved and how old you were, *** [Write them next to the name indicated] b) Say WHERE you were when you related to her, the key EVENTS in your relationship ***  [Take notes next to the name indicated] c) Tell me your EMOTIONAL AND SEXUAL SHARING with each. ***    d) Tell the DEVELOPMENTAL TASKS YOU COMPLETED with each. e) Summarize the events, sexual and emotional sharing and the developmental tasks we’ve experienced together.  *** f ) Imagine  [Lover 1: Say her or his name] is before you.  Toward her, express your LONGINGS, what you wished you could have shared with her or him. ***  g) Express to her or him any WITHHELD FEELINGS, things you didn’t get to say.***    h) Tell her or him your RESENTMENTS ***  i) As you imagine her or him before you, tell her or him  your DEMANDS, what you really wanted from her or him ***         j) Say, to her or him, your APPRECIATIONS ***       k) Tell her or him what you REGRET. Tell her what you FORGIVE her or...

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