Posts made in September, 2012


»Posted by on Sep 30, 2012 in Tantra | 2 comments

TEN PENIS PETS Janet Kira Lessin, Professor of Tanttric Studies . Be creative when you honor his lingam. Vary your strokes. Encourage feedback. Ladies, men generally like to be touched harder than you do. We’ve included a few fun samples to experiment with, but the best strokes are the ones you invent together. Be sure to use lots of oil. Shaft Shiatsu: squeeze up and down the penis at various points while pulling the penis down with your other hand. . Palm the Crown: Hold the penis firmly in one hand while massaging the head with the palm of your other hand in a circular motion. . Corkscrew: Pull the skin taut at base of the penis with one hand while you pull and twist the shaft in an upward, outward motion with the other hand. . Pass the Penis: Toss the lingam back and forth between your hands, side to side. Frenulum Fun: With one thumb on the frenulum, use the other hand to pull down at the base of the lingam and jewels that it is taut. . Frenulum Fun: With one thumb on the frenulum, use the other hand to pull down at the base of the lingam and jewels that it is taut. . Heal Down: Rub the heal of the hand down the shaft, fingers pointing downward to thetickle the sack with your fingernails. . Roll Dough: Use lots of oils and roll the penis between the palms of both hands, alternate speed and pressure. crotch. . Ringer: Place your fingers around the scrotum so the scotal sack is taut then . Rock the Cradle: With one hand heal the underside of the shaft while cradling the opposite side and in the opposite direction. Stroke up and down in opposite directions. . Downward Doggie: Lingam head faces perenium. Stroke lingum from base to head. Vary strokes and speed. Place other hand on power chakra (two inches below naval). . Vary strokes, tickle, scratch, squeeze, pull. Don’t forget the anus (rosebud), press gently on the outside. Maintain eye contact and don’t forget to...

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»Posted by on Sep 26, 2012 in Love, Tantra | 1 comment

NOT NOW, I’M ON MY MOON BY Janet Kira Lessin, Professor of Tanric Studies, School of Tantra   Many women feel uncomfortable making love on their “Moon” based on cultural conditioning rather than anything else. Making love during a woman’s flow can be can be extremely pleasurable and sensuous and many women experience heightened orgasmic potential during that sacred time. Many cultures recognized the magic of creation resides in the blood women give forth in apparent harmony with the cycle of the moon which sometimes stays inside and makes a baby. Blood was regarded with reverence; has mystical magical powers, sheds without pain and is foreign to the male experience. These first sacred menstrual rites were the earliest expressions of human culture.   In Tantric Sex, making love during a woman’s Moon is special and intimate. Sacred sexual intercourse when a woman is menstruating is considered a time when her sexual energy is at its peak and the aftermath stimulates a period of increased visionary perceptions.   If your beloved should begin her period while you are making love, take some of the blood and smear it across your chest, wear it like a proud banner. Tell her how beautiful and special it is that she has begun her flow during your loving and you love the intimacy and love that represents.   In mythology it is said that when Queen Eleanore dropped her menstrual napkin while she was dancing, everyone watching became nervous. The King laughed at this and picked up the pad, belt and all and tied it around his penis telling all that they should honor the place from whence all had came; the womb. With this action he thus established a high order of distinguished knighthood to do so.   Until I met Sasha, I had not known any men who loved to make love during my moon. The onset of my period became a time of dread for me because my lovers would treat me like a pariah, and wouldn’t come near me until I was “done with that awful thing”. I felt sexually frustrated as I was especially aroused during that time. I felt embarrassed and ashamed for something over which I had no control. In some ways this negative reaction affected my self esteem, even though logically I knew there was no reason to be affected in that way.   Sasha, (and other sensitive tantric lovers) feel honored to share the intimacy of a woman’s moon. Making love when the red river flows can be extremely sensuous and erotic. With proper adoration and attention, women can be taken to levels they’ve never known before.   Now I have many additional days of sexual loving and the intimacy that comes from deep levels of connecting. My life is richer and fuller as I no longer feel any shame associated with my menstrual process. I feel as if I am healed at some core level by the loving acceptance of all of me, including my blood, by my dear husband,...

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LOVE YOURSELF, SHOW HOW by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

»Posted by on Sep 26, 2012 in Love | 0 comments

LOVE YOURSELF, SHOW HOW by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D., Dean, School of Tantra   MAKE LOVE TO YOURSELF   Prepare a love-nest and set aside several hours when you’re wide awake, without pressing business or concerns. Imagine you prepare to receive and give leisurely, sensitive, unstinting sexual delight to the most important person in your world. Make the boudoir you create warm and comfortable. Let it contain a stand-up mirror and a large hand-held mirror.   Provide sensual music, fragrances, flowers, snacks, sacraments, massage oil or lube and plenty of large, soft towels.   Make sure no phone, delivery person, computer or dropper-by can intrude on the space you create for your tryst with the exalted person you plan to honor. Dress in your sexiest clothes.   Then invite yourself in; you’re the guest, the most important lover you’ll ever have. You.   Turn on the music, relax, imbibe. Stand before the mirror and slowly take off each of your garments. Look at your body objectively.   REFLECT ON YOUR REFLECTION   Turn at different angles to the mirror; see yourself from several angles. Watch your whole body flow as you move. Focus in turn on head, torso, legs, then crown, hair, face, neck, chest, back, belly, hips, buttocks, thighs, knees, shins, hands, feet, toes (but save genitals) as you dance to the mirror. Pick up the hand mirror. See your reflection reflect on your body from every vantage.   Stand before your image.   Notice what you like most and least about your body, what you see about your health, your assets and your liabilities.   Note what you appreciate. Say aloud how you’ll improve.   Identify with your body. As body, say what’s difficult and what’s satisfying about serving as this soul’s soma. Say how you feel about the way your person reacts to you. What would you like her or him to value you for? What else would you like her or him to know?   Use both mirrors. Look in your orifices.   Focus on, then become your genitals, roleplay your genitals. As Genitals, how do you feel. How did you feel in the mirror examination? What, as Genitals, is your existence as your person’s genitals? What do you, as the voice of your body, want and need?   Invite the energy at each level of your body to join at your genitals to celebrate.   Say “Lam,” touch your rosebud with your hand and ask your Earthy essence to come to your genital shrine for joy.   Chant “Vam,” touch your genitals and invite your Sensual subself.   Say “Ram,” rub your belly and invite the spirit of your inner Strength to join the fun.   Say “Yam,” touch your heart and invoke your Romantic inner voice.   Say “Ham;” invite your sound-maker Singer self to be present as you make love to yourself.   Chant “Ooo,” rub your third eye (between your eyebrows) and summons your inner Visioner.   Make the sound “Mmm” and invite your Universal Consciousness to be present too.   Pleasure yourself slowly as you look in your own eyes in the mirror.   Tell yourself aloud how much you love making love to yourself. Say, “I love you dear, [your name].”   Affirm your deepest devotion as you orgasm.   Pleasure yourself slowly as you look in your own eyes in the mirror.     SHOW ANOTHER HOW YOU SELF-PLEASURE   Do each of these exercises with break of at least an hour.   TURNS: Partner 1 observes; Partner 2 masturbates to orgasm while, if possible, looking in Partner 1’s eyes.   Partner 1 then touches and strokes Partner 2 the way Partner 2 touched herself or himself.   Partner 1 then masturbates to orgasm as Partner 2 watches, then pleasures Partner 1 as Partner 1 pleasured her/himself.   SAME TIME STROKING Variation 1: You and your partner gaze into each other’s eyes as you each touch yourselves sexually until each of you each climax.   SAME TIME STROKING Variation 2: You and partner touch each other anyplace but genitals, as you look into each other’s eyes masturbate until you each climax.   SAME TIME STROKING Variation 3: You and your partner simultaneously stroke each other to orgasm. Use touch techniques you learned when you watched each other and practiced in the “Turns” part of this training.   SELF-PLEASURE IN A GROUP   Gather four to six participants in a comfortable room with sensual music. All of you masturbate at the same time as you let your eyes move from person-to-person. Lock eyes with someone else in the group. Hold eye-contact with that person as...

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HOW I LOVE MY WIFE by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D.

»Posted by on Sep 25, 2012 in Love | 2 comments

HOW I LOVE MY WIFE by Sasha Lessin, Ph.D. Dean, School of Tantra For most American live-in couples, evenings end with “I’m too tired to make love”  according to NEWSWEEK. 20% of America’s couples share intercourse less than 10 times a year. This “bed death” causes relationship death.  But rejoice; the Daily Double Tantra Connects offer an alternative to weakening libido and breakups.   DAILY DOUBLE TANTRA CONNECTS   Wife Janet and I make love at least twice–usually three times– a day. We work at home and create our own schedule, so scheduling’s easy for us. We recommend you and your live-in make dates to touch souls and genitals twice daily.   3AM: I feel a gentle kiss on the lips. But then I feel tickly whiskers and hear purring and realize it’s my cat, Cleo. Cleo wants me to feed her and put her outside to pee. This accomplished, I work at my computer till 7, do yoga till 8, then make breakfast for Janet.   FOREPLAY FROM THE GETGO I start foreplay–I fix tea, toast and turkey bacon. Then, also foreplay, I hear and help her expand her dreams, twilight imaging and plans for the day. I focus on her, serve her and make her receptive to afternoon lovemaking.   About 10AM, I bike to the beach or gym, swim or lift weights, then pedal home. We eat, talk and shower for our afternoon delight-Honoring the Shakti Shrine and Embracing the Bucking Bull.   AFTERNOON DELIGHT I ask Janet if I can undress her.  I say what I admire about her body as I disrobe her. I invite her to lie on her back, touch my right palm to her heart and put her right hand on my heart. I rest my left hand on the back of her right. I say, “Put your left on my right.”   We gaze deeply into each other’s eyes.   I say, “I’m delighted to serve you, my Shakti.   I love this intimacy.  May my adoration heal hurts I and others caused you. May our hearts join.  Meet me, your devotee, at the Yoni Nadi Shrine. There, together, we transcend our separate self senses and join the cosmic dance.”   Then I ask, “What words have you to consecrate the worship I offer?”   RUB HER RIGHT   I ask if she’d like a massage; she rolls onto her belly and I gently tug her toes, rub her soles and legs, massage her fingers, palms, arms, then back and bottom. I help her turn over on her back. I keep eye-contact with her as I massage her front; first feet, hands, arms and legs. Then I glide my hands over her torso, barely brush labia and nipples and gently massage her belly.  I pull her rectus muscles from side to side and trace her ascending, transverse and descending colon clockwise. I massage her face and head. Finally, I stroke and knead the muscles inside the leg (especially the gracilis muscles, where the clitoris roots insert). I press my fingers deeply into the muscles above her pubic bone.   “May I touch your Sexual Shrine?   ” If she consents, I connect all her chakras with sacred sector energy. I rest my left hand gently on her heart and hold my right hand over her yoni (vulva).  I beam love from my eyes into her left eye. We breathe together three times, then I settle my hand gently on her mons and say, “I love you. Feel our hearts connect; energy vibrates between us. I send you love as I breathe out; inhale it.” I exhale, draw my navel back toward my spine and up, tighten my pubococcygeal and anal sphincter muscles and imagine energy fountains up my spine from tailbone, through my heart and out my right hand into her yoni.   As I inhale, I feel energy I sent her move through her heart into my left hand. My right hand stays on her yoni, my eyes stay on hers as I slowly move my left hand to her crown. “Goddess of Love, I invoke thee and invite thee to enter Janet’s crown and move through her central channel to her yoni shrine,” I say.  Then I move my left hand to Janet’s brow chakra. Successively I move my left hand to her throat, belly and rectal chakras. For each, we take three breaths, eye-gaze and connect with each other energetically.   I say, “I’d like to fondle your drapes and the skin over your pearl.”   When she says, “Oh, yes; please,” I say, Make sounds and direct me with words; give...

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»Posted by on Sep 11, 2012 in Love, Tantra | 2 comments

HOW MEN CAN MAKE LOVEMAKING LAST LONGER  by Janet Kira Lessin, Professor, Tantric Studies, School of Tantra  In order to having mind-blowing tantric-sex orgasms, both the man and the woman must achieve heightened states of arousal. Since the man winds up faster than the woman and can ejaculate like a bunny, the man must learn how to stay present, focus on the woman until she is electrically charged and running full blast. If he does so, the more the woman orgasms, the more she can orgasm. The best way for the woman to orgasm is right after she’s just orgasmed. The more she orgasms, the more she’s going to want to orgasm. See how this works?   Once she’s supercharged, the man can learn how to have full-body, kundalini and extended orgasms as he facilitates her and learns from her how to ride the Shakti wave.   So, if you have an orgasmic wife, you’ll be happy for the rest of your life. She’ll want to make love more because it’s fun, loving warm and intimate. The more you give, the more you’ll get and in the long run, you’ll learn that giving and receiving are one and the same.   Mike, a warm and gentle Cancerian, was a sensitive lover who learned long ago that the road to his greatest passion was by satisfying the Goddess first. When he honored his ladies orally, he observed that they seemed to ride waves when they orgasmed, which increased gradually in size until he thought they could bear no more. Then, he’d continue. As he held tight, it felt as if his lovers broke through another level of waves that were even higher than the first. On top of many levels, they seemed to have a wide variety of orgasms.   When he would finally have intercourse with them and experience his own orgasm, he noticed his orgasm was only one type, one level. He knew he could experience those waves and a multitude of orgasms types too, but wondered how. If only he had heard about tantric sex.   HESITATE TO EJACULATE   What Mike and others like him don’t realize is that they too can ride high orgasm waves if they master ejaculatory control. In orgasmic functioning, men and women are polar opposites. The more a woman orgasms, the more she can orgasm and the higher she can go. The more a man holds back his ejaculate (typical Western orgasm), the more he learns how to orgasm, the more orgasms he can have and the higher he goes. Eventually, both men and women experience full-body, extended and kundalini orgasms complete with kreas (rushes of energy that make the body jerk, feel good and look like small epileptic seizures).   In the buildup to a man’s ejaculation, his autonomic nervous system is dominated by its sympathetic branch. The sympathetic part of the autonomic nervous system releases the chemicals sympathin and adrenelin leading to peripheral vasodialation and visceral vasoconstriction. In other words, when a man is making love, the blood leaves his guts and moves into his face, extremities and penis giving him the energy. The peripheral neurons fire continuously and metabolites (waste products of neural burning) accumulate at the myroneural junctions (where nerves and muscles come together).   When he ejaculates, he goes into a phase of autonomic nervous system functioning known as parasympathetic overcompensation wherein the parasympathetic part of his central nervous system releases the chemical acetecholine which causes peripheral vasoconstriction and viseral vasodialation. The acetecholine cleanses the metabolites that accumulated in the muscle-nerve junctions in the excitation phase of lovemaking. In other words, the blood leaves his head, arms, legs and penis and goes to his guts to help him recuperate because he’s just run the equivalent of a small marathon and he feels sleepy. This signal to retreat, regenerate and relax is why so many men “come and go”.   MUST YOU GO IF YOU COME?   Many men once they ejaculate, roll over and fall asleep. Since the blood leaves the brain, even if he manages to stay awake, he may not be so focused on lovemaking as he was before due to the decreased level of oxygen in the brain. The chemical shift tends to deplete the former heightened level of attention, even if he does happen to get a second erection.   For many couples the answer is ejaculatory control.   When a man learns to ejaculate from choice rather than automatically, he moves his lovemaking to the highest levels of ecstasy possible for himself and his lover. If he masters the ability to hold his ejaculate and direct...

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